• Tankiedesantski [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    Idk if I'm just fucking old but to me a "red flag" is something that's telling you that thr guy or gal is fucked and you need to consider bailing on the relationship. Shit that's indicators for an abusive personality or being unhinged.

    I think there's probably a case to be made that calling everything a "red flag" devalues the term and makes tiny foibles way more dramatic than they ought to be. Like idk, maybe shit like not being able to take a selfie should not be in the same category as compulsive liar or chronic alcoholic.

    • Eris235 [undecided]
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      2 years ago

      I don't think there's a smarmy word for 'very vague warning sign' that's widely used. My friend group uses 'yellow flag' to mean basically what this woman means, which is something that is associated with shitty people, but isn't really a red flag in and of itself. Kind of just a 'hey, watch out for signs of the type of shitty behavior that can come with being a car guy' or whatever.

      Or like, if someone's a GAMER, it might be fine, but if you hear them saying KEK and FREN, probably time to cut and run.