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I know that I post the worst comments when I've had like 3 pots of coffee & been up for 18+ hours, so I'm gonna cast my :vote: for sleep as well.
Oh man we are polar opposites, you are talking about the moment in time where I am just getting tired enough that things in my head calm down and become waaaaaay clearer. I write my best stuff in the 18-36 hours awake region.
i enter my full bimbo form past 24 hours awake and enter my constantly sarcastic never using my brain frantic mode
plus side is i get super cuddly and nice in person, but on the internet im a fiend lol
The problem I think is mainly the caffeine. It gives my body tremors, my heart goes too fast & I break out in a sweat. It also doesn't help that there is no AC where I live, & I keep my doors & windows closed all the time so it can get to be almost 90 in my room.
It's just a lot of unpleasant feelings all at once, and if I get hit with something that snags my brain the right (wrong) way I can get stupid.
As yourself, an ND person, how would you feel if someone came into a community that you find solidarity and comfort in and called it "a decaying, bloated corpse" and "not a safe space for all ND people"? This goes both ways and this post does a lot to make ND people across the entire spectrum feel bad.
Do you have any constructive criticism? I'd love to be able to have a dialogue but as it stands this is a completely untargeted attack on everything about this place. Can you focus down on one particular thing that upsets you?
You have a good point with the first quote and a terrible point with the second
Do you do this in real life as well? “Disregard my tantrum, I’m ND. Treat me like a baby, because I can’t take basic responsibility for my own actions”?
Mental health is not your fault, but it is your responsibility. Sort yourself out, log off, touch grass.
I dunno man, people don't have the same abilities; we are not all made equal. That literally is the whole point of the critique of ableism as I understand it. The world we live in expects people to take responsibility for things they literally cannot do anything about & then says that because they can't they must therefore not be really human, or at the very least their existence is an active detriment to society & they need to be excluded on that basis.
I grant that we're not gonna fix that on a website; but I think that to some extent this is the crux of what OP is getting at. That even though Hexbear as a community proclaims inclusion, it itself still cannot overcome the fundamental contradictions of the Capitalist social order. I suppose the mistake is in assuming that it could though.
IDK.
op is nothing of substance and doesn't get to
acttreat others like this. You may share a space but that doesn't mean you get to smear shit on the walls and not do anything to manage itLady, you know what you do with people who can't help but shit themselves? You show them how to bathe. You keep them away from the shit. You dont let them play in it.
If you literally cannot help but type paragraphs of harmful shit, maybe you shouldnt be at the computer? I need to step away from this one sorry. I get what you're saying, but there's ways of dealing with it and then theres externalising it to whatever the heck op is
If you literally cannot help but type paragraphs of harmful shit, maybe you shouldnt be at the computer?
Probably true, tbh.
To take your analogy of the classroom: When one of the ND kids gets in a fight or yells at another child, theyre separated and we help them calm down, and talk them thru what happened - like what you do with any child. This is because they arent animals acting unknowingly, but people. And they are then given the tools to handle emotional distress. Like you do with all children.
Well my personal experience with that involved being pinned to the floor against my will & again, being put in confinement for not doing exactly as I was told when I was told to do it, or for speaking out when I thought that demands being made of me were unfair. To go back to the floor thing, shoving my face into the corner where said kid did that was something that my teachers would expressly taunt me with because they knew it made me feel sick.
So obviously while a nominal component of "Therapy" was present (in that they brought in a guy they said was a therapist to talk about said emotional management once every week or two), making sure we did as told was more the point of it.
I guess the only answer I can give you is that I've personally met enough people that are just fucked up enough, and have no actual material way of escaping that other than by performing the bootstrap miracle that I cannot agree with you that it makes sense to hold everyone equally accountable for their actions.
I suppose I have to conclude, as I already have stated previously, that this is not a problem that will be solved on Hexbear.net .
I'm not sure what you're trying to say, but I'm going to assume it's because you have a very similar posting method and style to wreckers.
Please at least pretend to let this be a place where I'm allowed to raise concerns I have instead of just hugboxland.
I think that part of the problem here is that OP may be kind of in the middle of a meltdown & is not in a position to effectively articulate what it is that's making them upset.
There will never be a place that is good for all people. That is simply utopian thinking, which is naive at best, reactionary at worst. The mods can attempt to attain it, but it will always be a process, falls up the hill to Golgotha.
However, with no specific examples and criticisms from which to draw from, there is nothing for the mods to work with here. There will simply be bans. Not out of paranoia, but a pettier emotion, annoyance. That's just the way it goes. If you have a specific interaction and grievance you should make it known.
Otherwise, this is a shit posting website. And that is all it and other anon forums can ever really be. If you want authenticity... Well, idk where to find that these days, but I know hippies are still a thing. They may be eccentric libertarian spiritualists, but they are nothing if not mostly authentic (even if they are authenticly selling you garbage).
Edit: Sorry if this doesn't help, Solidarity Forever.
There will never be a place that is good for all people. That is simply utopian thinking, which is naive at best, reactionary at worst.
TBH, I kinda need to believe it to be true to be able to believe in anything, personally. I have no actual connection to people IRL that would lead me to any kind of positive worldview otherwise, I think.
Idk. Slightly related, I really don't like Camus. He was just as much of a prick as Satre (if just as much of a sex pest) and most of his insights are too vague to be useful, or too specific to matter. However, he did have the absurdist banger, "We must imagine Sysiphus happy."
How is it slightly related? I think a better, more Marxist faith, is to believe that one day the work will be happy, not that the work won't exist. Still abit utopian, but a healthier, delusion. There will always be work that needs to be done to make things better for as many people as possible. Maybe eventually everyone.
However, an anon Internet forum run by volunteer mods almost certainly not the place to discover that process. Even Marx asked Engels for more drinking money, and these people do this shit for free. They're going to do their best, which probably isn't good enough, but they are clearly trying, which is better than Reddit.
He was just as much of a prick as Satre (if just as much of a sex pest)
Comparatively unimportant, but I am losing my mind at how this term is getting generalized. Sex pest refers to someone who pesters (harasses, nags) for sex. Sartre was a pedophile who worked with a groomer, which is far beyond "sex pest" in severity. I don't know much about Camus's biography, but he was probably also a pedo since literally all white French intellectuals were at that time.
However, an anon Internet forum run by volunteer mods almost certainly not the place to discover that process. Even Marx asked Engels for more drinking money, and these people do this shit for free. They’re going to do their best, which probably isn’t good enough, but they are clearly trying, which is better than Reddit.
Yeah, that's fair. I suppose that I elucidated more of my own position elsewhere here.
Camus wasn't a sex pest, I don't think. Just being horny all the time and having lots of sex isn't a sex pest.
You don't deserve to be treated poorly and you deserve to be heard.
Look at what you've said and be honest, do you think most people are in the mood to hear you out now?
sorry you are having a rough one, i can actually see where youre coming from somewhat .. hell you can even see an example of what youre talking about with a few of the responses ..
i agree that there does seem to be a noticeable amount of people unwilling or unable to ever be genuine or least not always be assuming the worst of people or their intentions and though i dont really think ive ever. experienced it ive seen it happen to countless people on here, like people who definitely did not have bad intentions but were maybe just having a bad day or something like that.. its not cool in my opinion
Is there something specific this is about, 'cause I'm so lost as to the point of this post ngl
this community has absolutely chased out the majority of psychotic/addicted users, that's not to mention the whole trans thing where site policy wound up being correct but the userbase at large threw such a shit fit that most trans users left, if even temporarily.
idk, part of me is tempted to try to type up a chapo obituary so the people left here can try to learn from how everything went down, but instead of seeing this site as a failed project people seem to think having a site with 17 active users is good because "we've finally chased out all the bad people."
psychotic is a term i get to use cuz i Am One, idk what the medical industrial complex calls me anymore theyve abused me too much to care
Psychotic refers to a group* of personality disorders much more specific than a label like ND.
*maybe it would be more accurate to say a "vector within personality disorders" but vector always comes off as pretentious.
implying this site gets any new users and im not Just Some Guy who remade for infosec
I'm still hear at least
Though I don't think I'm psychotic in a way that makes me post interestingly
I think you guys are being a little mean here. This wasn't a stellar post and OP should maybe log off or be more clear about the issue, but you're being kinda cruel to stolase. Even assuming this is a wrecker, this post doesn't really do anything which would wreck us. If someone felt everyone was being paranoid, trying to call them an outsider doesn't help.
