• AOCapitulator [they/them]
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    3 months ago

    The @lemmy.liberals in the comments here being flabbergasted that straight white men in positions of power are privileged and embarrassing is very funny

    Keep it up dorks

    Edit:

    To the salty folks out there mad about people not stooping down and being your personal elementary school teacher to teach you basic lessons about the world we live in, and our friends from lemmy.world who are assuredly reading through posts like this one from defederated instances (hi!)

    A word about what it is to be civil in conversation and Why Those Tankies Are So Mean (not a tankie but w/e):

    I will definitely admit that I was very annoyed and could have been nicer about a lot what I went about saying throughout my posts in this thread. Here's the thing, 'being nicer about it' is a personal decision not a moral necessity, and not even necessarily beneficial at all. The "it" we're being "nicer" about is often something horrifying, like when people got upset at Aaron Bushnell for his self immolation, people who were more upset about THAT than they are about what's happening to innocent bystanders in Palestine. These are not positions that should be met with civility. No one is required to put up with someone's bullshit just for the purpose of helping them learn and grow. Its good to do in the few times when that is possible...

    but here?

    on the internet? On a not-reddit forum website in a science memes community? Its 1/10000 chance where that's possible.

    We all know why you would feel attacked by seeing the mention of his white maleness and the implication that had anything to do with it. No unbiased person would see that and think "this is prejudice based on skin color!" or pretend they can see no connection between the guy in the tweet's old male whiteness and THE TWEET, A perfect encapsulation of the absurdity our nightmare culture which enshrines and systematically enforces the power of ignorant old white men. Its not a statement that all white people are bad, its not a statement that all old people are bad, its not a statement that all men are bad.

    It's a recognition of the systemic rot inflicted on the scientific community by our current culture shaped by patriarchy, capitalism, and imperialism.

    Add to that how sick I and many of us are of the constant bullshit, the harmful attitudes beliefs and inevitable whining and whinging when the least criticism lands near the fancy of the loser we run across on some post. We're leftists, but also most of us are either trans or queer or poc or neurodivergent etc etc or any combination thereof. We have been around for years just on lemmy, and years before. And over those years, have grown to recognize civility bullshit for what it always was. And recognize what it means when we see stuff like this post, where people are upset about criticism of privileged behavior that demonstrates an injustice inherent to our current system. So we see that bullshit, and we come down on it. To see that an not react harshly against it is no different than contributing to it yourself, to let it fester and grow, to let something horrible and unjust become simply 'normal'.

    To hear incorrect views without rebutting them and instead to take them calmly as if nothing had happened is unacceptable.

    That's why many people in this thread reacted negatively to the comments we did. Clear enough?

    This is why I usually just say shut up, loser. It's way fucking easier, and taking the effort like this is never worth it, not on here, not with the .world et all crowd.

    So shut up, losers.

  • radio_free_asgarthr [he/him, comrade/them]
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    3 months ago

    Not as confrontational, but had a similar experience with a collaborator. Due to the PIs' old habits, our collaboration meetings were telecons (telephone landlines, rather than zoom or other video conferencing). So at a conference, I see a poster from a member of the collaboration, having never seen the faces of many members, and go over to introduce myself. This other grad student was in poster presenter mode, so as I approach he immediately asks "So you are interested in [collaboration project], how much do you know about [project]" and I point to my name on the author's list and say "well, I am that guy".

    • SSJ2Marx
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      3 months ago

      I've been on both sides of that kind of interaction, though not in academia. I met my boss of six months for the first time like two weeks ago, tbh I'm not sure if I would recognize him (or anyone else on my "team" for that matter) if I saw him again right now.

    • InappropriateEmote [comrade/them, undecided]
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      3 months ago

      It's not obvious? Because white males as a demographic are the most privileged people on the planet and not coincidentally also the ones most prone to petty, oblivious arrogance, tantrum-throwing, and egotistical man-splaining. The latter was demonstrated by the one in this NASA scientist's anecdote.

        • DinosaurThussy [they/them]
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          3 months ago

          You are suggesting a poor mine worker from Romania is somehow more privileged based on how he looks.

          You misunderstand the concept of privilege. It’s not linear. Intersectionality was devised to solve this exact contradiction.

            • The_Jewish_Cuban [he/him]
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              3 months ago

              Intersectionality is the idea that various forms of privilege and circumstance interact with each other to make an individual. Certain influences are more impactful upon a particular person's circumstances, and thus influence privilege to a much greater extent. The non-linear nature that DinosaurThussy is talking about can better be shown with examples.

              If you're homeless and white it's clear that you're in a worse off situation than a billionaire who is black. Class status has a far greater influence on this situation. It would be fair to say that the black billionaire has more privilege due to his class status but not his ethnic identity. That being said, it's unlikely that the white man was denied a job due to his race in a way a homeless black person may be. Being poor and white and poor and black have many commonalities, but intersectional analysis allows us to understand the different ways and avenues that particular characteristics influences the ways that a person may end up in a particular circumstance.

              The idea continues on. A person who is a billionaire may be significantly shielded from a lot of racism, or face it in a less extreme way. For example, that proverbial black billionaire likely wouldn't have many run ins with racist cops in impoverished neighborhoods. However, he still might face the unifying characteristic of being called a slur by his peers in the way that a poor black person might. His privilege of wealth may not complete inoculate him facing racism at all, even if he faces it in a less extreme way.

              In essence, this situation is viewing individuals dialectic-ly. It seeks to understand how all of a person's identity and circumstances relate to the struggles and oppression certain groups or people may face in society.

              • Dra@lemmy.zip
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                3 months ago

                I empathise with most of this and thank you for bothering to respond without resorting to 4chan energy.

                The problem that remains unresolved is the refusal of some people to acknowledge that, like in science, observation is not without cost. What ends up happening is the observation of these trends then causes casualties of blame - in your example we could say the huge population of white people who dont fundamentally see black people in any light other than equal. An insult based on a black billionaire being a greedy billionaire gets called racially charged, when actually, it's entirely class based. This reliably means that (for example) white working class boys/girls are left to rot.

                Personally I see most of these prejudicial issues being an exclusively American problem that has been exported abroad, to the extent now that its difficult to untangle.

                  • Dra@lemmy.zip
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                    3 months ago

                    America has prejudicial issues at astonishing levels compared to the rest of the developed world. Obviously its an absurd statement to say there is no predujude abroad in the western world, but the US has the controlling stake in it, and happens to be an infectious cultural juggernaut.

                    • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                      3 months ago

                      happens to be

                      I wonder if there was material historical precedent that could explain this, and explain the state of the modern world?

                      Nah, systems aren't real I forgot, nevermind

                    • yoink [she/her]
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                      3 months ago

                      there is literally a genocide being perpetrated by israel right now what do you mean america has prejudicial issues at astonishing levels comparatively

                • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                  3 months ago

                  This is what happens when you view the world through liberal idealism instead of doing any material analysis whatsoever

                  Systems aren't real, they're just imaginary, they can't hurt you, there's no such thing as systemic oppression just a few bad apples

                  Lmfao shut up

                • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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                  3 months ago

                  Personally I see most of these prejudicial issues being an exclusively American problem that has been exported abroad

                  Have you forgotten who colonised most of the world, including America? This is in no way an American centric issue. Racism exists in most countries on earth.

            • Adkml [he/him]
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              3 months ago

              That poor mine worker is still in a better position than an otherwise identical minority would be in the same position.

              A poor mine worker is in a tough place but at least he wasn't refused that job because the company doesn't hire non white people.

              • Dra@lemmy.zip
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                3 months ago

                This exporting US culture shit has got to stop

                We aren't talking about another mine worker. We are comparing 2 individuals with certain characteristics. You have instead decided to compare a third individual because the initial comparison made the concept break down

                Just because someone is a certain color does not prescribe to them any specific value judgement. As soon as you do that, one of those categories becomes the ongoing scapegoat for everyone's problems, and it becomes fascist.

                • Adkml [he/him]
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                  3 months ago

                  Does it ever occur to you that for your arguments to make sense you have to strip it of all context, historical perspecrive or material reality.

                  I literally didn't say anything about the us. I'm saying that Romanian is still better off than a minority in Romania that got discriminated again.

                  Any more reasons for you to smugly ignore everything everybody is repeatedly telling you.

                  For people who complain about how rude we are and how we're an echo chamber you're being shown an incredible amount of patience for how unbearably obtuse you're intentionally being.

            • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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              3 months ago

              For example, just because a queer person is white does not mean they experience the same privilege as a cis het white person

              Or how all women are oppressed, but the tribulations of white women are Not the same as those facing women of color or trans women, they face more and more varied forms of discrimination, but it doesn't mean that one is more important or valid than others, just materially different for example

        • kristina [she/her]
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          3 months ago

          youre deliberately misinterpreting the concept of intersectionality, it includes class.

          • Dra@lemmy.zip
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            3 months ago

            I'm not deliberately mistinterpreting anything, if I don't understand something, then explain it to me.

            Incredibly privileged of you to assume everyone else has your spoilt middle class educational background

            • SUPAVILLAIN@lemmygrad.ml
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              3 months ago

              You're posting to a niche reddit-clone that you only could've reliably found out about through either reddit, twitter, or mastodon. You have access to Google, you disingenuous twit.

              • Dra@lemmy.zip
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                3 months ago

                Not relevant, it's not my job to Google your arguments that I don't know exist. If you wish to correct me on something, please do!

                • SUPAVILLAIN@lemmygrad.ml
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                  3 months ago

                  LOOK IT THE FUCK UP WHEN YOU'RE CALLED ON FUNDAMENTALLY MISUNDERSTANDING SOMETHING RATHER THAN BEING A REDDITOR PEDANT, JESUS FUCKING CHRIST DO YOU NEED TYING YOUR SHOES EXPLAINED TO YOU THE SAME WAY??????

                  Y'know what, since I can't even trust you to do that right at this point, have a link for it! https://letmegooglethat.com/?q=intersectionalism

                  • Dra@lemmy.zip
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                    3 months ago

                    Getting emotional because you are impotent to communicate your thoughts on a topic isn't condusive to anyone understanding your point of view.

                    Now, without being unstable or abusive, please try again

                    • SUPAVILLAIN@lemmygrad.ml
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                      3 months ago

                      Please get fucked with your smuggard guero ass. If "emotions" make it hard for you to parse an easily-grokable concept, you might have a disorder you need to get diagnosed, you empathy-lacking toad.

                      Show
                      Show

                      “Dr. King’s policy was, if you are nonviolent, if you suffer, your opponent will see your suffering and will be moved to change his heart. That’s very good. He only made one fallacious assumption. In order for nonviolence to work, your opponent must have a conscience. The United States has none.” -- Kwame Ture

                      • Dra@lemmy.zip
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                        3 months ago

                        You are very emotionally unstable, particularly nasty towards people with certain disorders. Do you think you are superior to them?

                        Someone with such lacking such basic self control should not be telling people how to run the world, you can barely handle a lemmy comment that doesn't immediately conform to your interpretation of your worldview.

                        I don't lack empathy at all, I just know how to separate emotional involvement from rational conversation, like an adult.

                        Violence is not, and has never been the answer. If you are fundamentally empathetic, you will always lose to someone who lacks empathy. They are much better at committing harm to others.

                        • SUPAVILLAIN@lemmygrad.ml
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                          3 months ago

                          Certainly superior to you, you settler apparently a fuckin minstrel waste of time. The better part of you ran out of your mother on the night of your conception, and in all honesty, she probably should've swallowed you. Maybe this world wouldn't be so ugly. I'm not interested in debating a son of colonizers and genocidal ghouls; clearly that's ALL that comprises you.

                    • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                      3 months ago

                      A lemmy.zip user being an enormous ignorant tool?!! What? How could this happen!!?

                      • SUPAVILLAIN@lemmygrad.ml
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                        3 months ago

                        Christ on a goddamned stick, I don't know why I even try bothering with those worthless colonizer stains. Might as well try explaining sociology to a goddamn dog.

            • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]
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              3 months ago

              Incredibly privileged of you to assume everyone else has your spoilt middle class educational background

              berdly-actually uhm, actually, it is in fact YOU who is the privileged one in this scenario, no I. check, and furthermore, mate

            • kristina [she/her]
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              3 months ago

              if I don't understand something, then explain it to me.

              ok so you have deliberately removed as many brain cells as possible from your brain, understood 07

              • Dra@lemmy.zip
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                3 months ago

                Do you really think that you know all there is to know? Perhaps I know something that you don't, but you don't know what it is. What then?

              • Dra@lemmy.zip
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                3 months ago

                Do you think that the Prime Ministers wife is less privileged than the Romanian miner? How would you address the discrepancy with the group prescription?

                • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                  3 months ago

                  No, no one thinks that, because part of the context there is that one of the people is married to a head of state, and one is a coal miner

                  You aren't misunderstanding anything here, loser, and we aren't dumb enough to fall for it

                  • Dra@lemmy.zip
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                    3 months ago

                    Of course, I have first hand experience of it.

                    Now respond to what I said

                    • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                      3 months ago

                      What did you say? I'll answer you, I've just lost the original question in all of your back and forth

    • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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      3 months ago

      lemmy.zip

      Edit: this slap fight below this comment is the reason for this comment originally, that is why it was a joke to point out the instance, Thanks for demonstrating my point lol

            • Adkml [he/him]
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              3 months ago

              They dont have to you assholes wont stop offering up reasons.

              Seriously look at the comments there's damn near 100% overlap with the people bitching about how this is unfair to old white dudes and people with lemmy.something for a username

                • Adkml [he/him]
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                  3 months ago

                  They seem pretty God damn determined to prove they're exactly as disingenuous and intentionally ignorant as possible.

                  Lot of MLKs Whote Moderates in here.

                  • SUPAVILLAIN@lemmygrad.ml
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                    3 months ago

                    Malcolm X's smiling foxes and snarling wolves; Northern and Southern dog sitting side by side like the kissing-cousins they are.

                  • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                    3 months ago

                    Yeah, any of them still confused should take a step back, read over the thread again and reflect, it's all there if they stop and think about it, hopefully at least one will, but the rest will continue to be very funny

                    • Adkml [he/him]
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                      3 months ago

                      Yup instead they just keep insisting they don't mind being wrong they just don't understand what everybody's problem with them is while another 20 people scream as loudly and clearly as they can why they have problems with them.

                      Good reminder there's no point hoping for good faith discussion with liberals because their idea of good faith is pretending to be polite while refusing to even acknowledge anything anybody has said to them.

              • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                3 months ago

                lol. There is no point in bickering further now that you have started with the insults and ascribed me views that I do not hold, I am not the terrible person you think of, and I will not stoop down to your level and fling insults at you.

                So instead I am just going to wish you a pleasant weekend and hope you realize that not everything is as you believe it to be, much less so on the internet.

                • Adkml [he/him]
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                  3 months ago

                  There never was any fucking point I really dont know why I even bother waste my fucking time trying to talk to you dumbshit liberals who are more concerned with tone policing than acknowledging that racism and sexism exist.

                  • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                    3 months ago

                    hey this one might actually be legit, so worth either engaging with or just disengaging completely, fyi

                  • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                    3 months ago

                    Wow, this is hillarious!

                    You honestly seem to think you know me and my political views from a throwaway comment that I made just after getting up in the morning.

              • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                3 months ago

                I get and accept that you may dislike me based on my comments in this thread, I am more confused as to what the lemmy.zip instance has done to dismiss it outright.

                • Adkml [he/him]
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                  3 months ago

                  Because everybody makes the same shitty comments and it's almost more tiring than anything.

                  If you so graciuosly "accept that we may dislike you" why can't you understand we wouldn't like people like you especially when it's always the same tired bullshit from people like you.

                  • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                    3 months ago

                    why can't you understand we wouldn't like like people like you especially when it's always the same tired bullshit from people like you.

                    Where did this come from?

                    I made one post annoyed about the skin color being complained about, I also noted that I hate the word "mansplaining", the rest of my comments in this thread have been mostly fine.

                    So no, I don't understand the intense dislike for me here, re read my comments and please see if I am so terrible.

                    • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                      3 months ago

                      Someone is telling you there are issues with your posts, you then went looking at your own posts and saying to yourself "no, the rest of these are fine"

                      Do you not see the issue here?

                      You didn't know any of them were not fine in the first place, that's why you posted them, because you were ignorant about the context and implications

                      Not an insult, ignorant means you were unaware. Continuing in ignorance after it's been pointed out, however...

                      That's some dumbass shit right there

                      To reiterate: it is almost unbelievible to me that someone could see this situation and genuinely be clueless as to why it matters that the asshole in the post is an old white man.

                      That and the fact that hours later you still seem not to grasp why that stance was treated with such hostility, is why we're treating you with even more hostility

                      Because you're either a lost cause

                      or

                      you know exactly what you're doing and you're doing it on purpose

                      • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                        3 months ago
                        1. Yes I do believe that most of what I posted here is fine apart from two comments.

                        2. Ignorant is often used as an insult, but I se and concede your point.

                        3. I am annoyed at the post talking about skin color when it wasn't needed to make the point. I suppose I get pissed off since I am a white man who tries his best and get lumped in with this shit, I remember back ten years ago when femenists talked about ceyibg men and how they were drinking male tears, I webt through a very tough period of time then and cried a lot, and I guess I took and still take it a bit too personal.

                        4. I am fine with a bit of hostillity, but do get extra annoyed when people just assume the worst and come in all guns blazing taking everything I say as being completely terrible and decide I am a horrible person.

                        • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                          3 months ago

                          I get you on 3. and your feelings are totally valid

                          1. sorry this was friendly fire, it almost always isnt and is worth the risk, but I am sorry if that means anything to ya
                          • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                            3 months ago

                            Thank you, am glad we at least can see eachother as people and not just trolls trying to mess with eachother

                              • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                                3 months ago

                                Try to keep that in mind, and I will try to keep in mind that some comments are just too much work to post.

                                Well the time is almost 23:15, gotta get to sleep so I can get up and wash my very dirty car tomorrow, have a great weekend!

                    • Adkml [he/him]
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                      3 months ago

                      Take a look at the fucking thread and note the thirty other identical comments all being as intentionally totally stupid and ignorant as you are.

                      That where the hostility comes from. You assholes constantly making the same dogshit excuses for having the exact same political beliefs as chuds but still acting morally superior to people who don't reflexively get offended if somebody dares criticize some old white asshole.

                      If you still don't understand why the smug sanctimonious asshole being an old white dude and is relevant to women's experience I stem please for the love of God at least shit the fuck up and stop feigning ignorance. It's really obvious at this point nobody's going to change your mind because you're determined to disregard anything that criticizes white hegemony. Just like the chuds you love yo look down on while having the exact same belief system.

                    • Kuori [she/her]
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                      3 months ago

                      I made one post annoyed about the skin color being complained about, I also noted that I hate the word "mansplaining"

                      nobody needed to see more than this to know you weren't worth their time

                      • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                        3 months ago

                        Anyone that easily offended that they won't even consider asking why is probably not someone I would stand anyway.

                          • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                            3 months ago

                            While I am in general a huge advocate for men to feel safe to cry without ridicule and have cried a lot during heavy depression, I see no reason to do so now.

                            What the broken cracker means, I have zero idea, so I googled "anti cracker aktion" and only got result about campaigns to ban firecrackers, which seems perfectly resonable, but I suspect it means something different here.

                              • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                                3 months ago

                                Ah, so you are just a troll that can be ignored. If you had just said so, it would have saved both of us some time

                                • Kuori [she/her]
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                                  3 months ago

                                  you're not worth engaging with seriously, you little worm

                                    • Kuori [she/her]
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                                      3 months ago

                                      it's time to leave me alone, you massive creep

                                      • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                                        3 months ago

                                        You are welcome to leave the thread at any time, you came to my comment and started bashing me without reason, if you don't like it you can just leave, I am certainly not stopping you.

                • Stoneykins [any]@mander.xyz
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                  3 months ago

                  It happens to be an instance federated with several idealogy-heavy instances, while itself being a general use instance with simple account creation procedures.

                  It makes it a popular choice for people who want to make multiple accounts for trolling, as well as people who have unpopular (as far as lemmy goes) ideologies. You can hopefully understand the kind of friction that could create and the reputation is the outcome.

                  You probably could have figured this out yourself if you just... Looked around. You shouldn't expect people who are in disagreement with you to explain everything.

                  • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                    3 months ago

                    Ok, I can sort of see your explanation, but I disagree with you on the fact that other people should not be expected to explain their viewpoints to a person they disagree with.

                    Not explaining just leads to bickering, with no one getting any point across.

                    But if you explain the other party may gain a better understanding.

                    • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                      3 months ago

                      I know what you mean, but also this type of logic is used to fuck with marginalized people, putting the onus on them to stop and explain to their aggressors why what is being done to them is wrong, why they are valid people, to stop and justify your own existence for one who would doubt it

                      I know that's not what you were doing, but that's what we deal with constantly, and because others in the thread had already gone into detail about why it matters this guy was white and male, I did not need to explain again

                      • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                        3 months ago

                        I get that, but I hoped that my way of posting gave me some benefit of the doubt. (:

                        • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                          3 months ago

                          From my perspective, it actually served to do the opposite. I understand that you're posting in good faith, but it is, especially at first, indistinguishable from the kinds I was describing

                          • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                            3 months ago

                            With hindsight, I can see that, though I disagree with the response.

                            • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                              3 months ago

                              I actually just posted what amounts to a short essay about this, if you're interested in more of my reasoning you can check it out. Cheers though, wish you well

                    • Stoneykins [any]@mander.xyz
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                      3 months ago

                      Maybe there is some hypothetical moral ideal on how people should behave in internet disagreements but I'm just trying to get you to be more realistics lmao

                      • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                        3 months ago

                        I am a realist, which is why I am trying show that I am no troll the only way I can, by trying to have a polite conversation.

                        Though I am starting to get the picture that some people who still are downvoting me would rather see me insulting and crapping sll over the thread, which just reenforce the importance of not doing that.

                        • Adkml [he/him]
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                          3 months ago

                          You are in no way a realist you are actually being a pedantic pain in the ass doing an extreme amount of work to not understand really obviously apparent realities, starting with why you got offended somebody would call out old white assholes and then with the following 20 questions where you're being intentionally obtuse while acting like you have the moral high ground.

                        • Stoneykins [any]@mander.xyz
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                          3 months ago

                          Honestly you aren't even the worst in this thread but you did kinda open the door to some shit

                          Not that I don't think you're dumb as bricks for your "what does skin color have to do with this" comment. You should know damn well what skin color has to do with this

                          • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                            3 months ago

                            That's fair, like I said, I got mildy annoyed, and never expected this entire conversation

                            • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                              3 months ago

                              I'm pretty sure you're genuine, and if that is the case, I hope you will be able to figure out why you were lumped in with the rest, and hope it doesn't happen again because you learn the lesson

                              Also, I will definitely admit that I was very annoyed and could have been nicer about it,and on the off chance you're actually genuine hey sorry. But that's not the important thing, 'being nicer about it' is a personal decision not a moral necessity. The "it" we're being "nicer" about is often something horrifying, like when people got upset at Aaron Bushnell for his self immolation, who were more upset about THAT than they are about what's happening to innocent bystanders in Palestine. No one is required to put up with someone's bullshit just for the purpose of helping them learn and grow. Its good to do in the few times when that is possible...

                              but here?

                              on the internet? Its 1/1000 interactions where that's possible, and 1/2 of the time we're dealing with actual nazis and people who support and encourage systems that target us for extermination, us being any marginalized identities, which hexbear mostly is in one way or another, not just because we're leftists, but also most are trans and/or queer and/or poc and/or neurodivergent etc etc. We have been around for years and over those years, have grown to recognize civility bullshit for what it always was. And recognize what it means when people are upset about criticism of privileged behavior that demonstrate the contradictions inherent to our current system. To see that an not react harshly against it is no different than contributing to it yourself

                              To hear incorrect views without rebutting them and, but instead to take them calmly as if nothing had happened.

                              That's why many people in this thread reacted negatively to the comments we did. Clear enough?

                              • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                                3 months ago

                                After reading about why .zip can be seen as bad, I do understand it better, I genuinely didn't know about the reputation of the instance.

                                Learned my lesson?

                                I have gained more understanding, but there was no lesson to be learned here.

                                • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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                                  3 months ago

                                  Also sorry for splitting our conversation over two separate threads, it was a bit confusing and added to my frustration

                                  • stoy@lemmy.zip
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                                    3 months ago

                                    I can see that, to be honest I am also having quite a lot of trouble keeping the story straight myself.

    • jol@discuss.tchncs.de
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      3 months ago

      It's a reminder than people that have always been in a privileged position often don't realize they do.

      • Adkml [he/him]
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        3 months ago

        All you losers acting like you dont understand why the fact it was a white male that was being the ignorant self righteous asshole just shows you aren't actually serious with engaging with material realities.

        You should all really look up what MLK Jr has to say about you white moderates and make an effort to remind yourself people like MLK Jr and Malcolm X think you're literally worse than white supremacists.

      • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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        3 months ago

        It's an American obsession.

        Are you just going to pretend that there is no racism anywhere else? It was the Europeans that colonised half the planet and invented the concept of "whiteness", and proceeded to divide and carve Africa up. Are you just going to pretend that this action has had no influence on modern European ideas around race and class? And I haven't even mentioned the Roma people. Or the ongoing genocide in Palestine, which has a racial component. Or the rise of Hinduistic fascism in India. Or the issues around race in my own country in South Africa. Racism is a global issue.

    • NotJustForMe@lemmy.ml
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      3 months ago

      It is just mentioned. Just a description of what happened. What's wrong about saying it was a white male when it was a white male? Why jump to the opinion that mentioning the gender or complexion has any other purpose than being descriptive?

  • player2@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    3 months ago

    And then everyone applauded..

    But seriously if I witnessed this, I might actually applaud because that is a pretty badass bit of trivia to get to whip out.

    • Ephera@lemmy.ml
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      3 months ago

      They're mentioning the race and gender basically to say "a privileged person". Having privileges obviously influences your character. And race+gender correlate with privileges.

      So, while there's no direct causation, and us white males who aren't chumps don't need to be offended, it's often good enough of an explanation why a particular white male might be a chump.

    • Allero@lemmy.today
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      3 months ago

      While I perfectly agree with your position on that the "privilege" talk has become a weapon in and of itself, and that a lot of bullshit stories come out of it, I'd love it if you could change the tone of conversation.

      Americans are different, and they may have cultural reasons to behaving this way. That's not to say they're right - but seeding anger this way is not gonna magically change their minds.

    • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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      3 months ago

      Why's she flexing about a paper that a white male couldn't understand?

      ???

      • humbletightband@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        3 months ago

        She wrote a book. Then the arrogant white male read it. And referenced it while arguing with her, quoting the book. How he would argue with her if he did understand the book correctly

        • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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          3 months ago

          No, like, I get that he evidently didn't understand it, but I find your question strange as it presupposes that she is "flexing" about a paper rather than complaining about how presumptuous some of her fellows can be.