i think doing this to a kid probably harms their development in some way, but it's not particularly traumatizing, and with the stigma generally attached to "letting your kids run wild" (because this world doesn't accommodate children nearly enough), i can see why parents would resort to it.
okay more serious answer i think they're qualitatively different modes of restraint. a child can register their immediate desire for independence more easily holding hands, and that independence can be granted more easily and revoked less easily, so its use can be better tailored to circumstances, and that lesson of self control can arrive quicker. if what is forbidden is always dictated by the parents, what does it matter to the child the reason beyond "because i said so"?
i'm just talking out my ass. i'm not an expert. i did used to be a child tho.
i think doing this to a kid probably harms their development in some way, but it's not particularly traumatizing, and with the stigma generally attached to "letting your kids run wild" (because this world doesn't accommodate children nearly enough), i can see why parents would resort to it.
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okay more serious answer i think they're qualitatively different modes of restraint. a child can register their immediate desire for independence more easily holding hands, and that independence can be granted more easily and revoked less easily, so its use can be better tailored to circumstances, and that lesson of self control can arrive quicker. if what is forbidden is always dictated by the parents, what does it matter to the child the reason beyond "because i said so"?
i'm just talking out my ass. i'm not an expert. i did used to be a child tho.
sure why not