like I don't wanna be mr cracker callin cops but say you hear your neighbor bang on his front door so loud it shakes your apartment 3 rooms away, you hear him inside yelling with a woman, hard to tell what they say, but you clearly hear "get out of my face" from her, and either "give me my keys" or "give me my kids" (but wtf???) from her, shouting, and then pounding like someone is being flung around the room

is this cop time? do cops make things worse? is this "just talk to your neighbors" time even though the clear and present threat of violence is there?? I literally do not know what to do. I panicked, I called the cops, I think they literally just talked to the guy and then left.. idk what the alternative would be, I can't just get the woman alone to ask if she's okay when the dude's almost always there, guy is like 7 foot fuck,

e: I don't know how to reconcile "all cops suck they make everything worse" with not wanting to be a fucking bystander when someone is potentially (from all the sensory information I can gather) getting beaten by their partner

  • fishnwhistle420 [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    One time this guy fucked up on meth or drunk or something was trying to kick my door down at like 3 am. The whole time he’s screaming that he’s trying to get to a girl that’s in there, there was no girl in there, he was at the wrong apartment and I tell him that through the door but he just keeps kicking and yelling louder saying I’m trying to hide her. He’s kicking full force now and the door is shit to begin with, I know he’s gonna kick it in soon.

    So I have no realistic options left. Should I have opened the door and fought this mystery man at 3 a.m. over his own delusions? It was small town Oklahoma so I guess I could have shot him and the judge would have called it self-defense like a right-wing fantasy. But I didn’t do those things, I was against calling the cops on people but hadn’t figured out when if ever it was warranted so I threatened it and he runs away instantly. Did I do the right thing? I don’t fucking know. That was years ago and I still think about it because I know he probably just kept looking for whoever this girl was after he left.