I thought she just didn't want to do sex stuff or cuddle or show affection..

Anyway I just thought it was important to let the world know that you can be volcel army and still be in a committed ten year relationship. In fact isn't that what true comradeship is built on?

Weapons grade cope aside, I think I'm one of those weird types of humans who needs affection and so on. Am I really going to have to start dating again? FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK

  • Kuori [she/her]
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    8 months ago

    i'm actually in a nearly-identical situation, including the "nearly 10 years" bit. it's...difficult, particularly if you're the sort of person who, as you said, doesn't want something unless it's enthusiastically offered.

    i don't really have any useful advice, unfortunately, but i just wanted you to know you're not alone. i hope you can strike a balance that works for you both.

    • JustSo [she/her, any]
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      8 months ago

      I really appreciate the supportive words. It does help. I'm sure we'll figure it out eventually.

      I hope your situation develops for the better too.

      • HexbearGPT [comrade/them]
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        8 months ago

        It’s really nice to see that you care enough to give it some deep thought and reach out for advice. Good job.