I love y'all, don't get me wrong, but I joined a weekly in-person DnD group a few weeks ago with some friends and that has done more for my mental and emotional wellbeing than this or any other website ever has.

It doesn't have to be a tabletop group, it doesn't even have to be a group, it can be one best friend that you're particularly close with, just get together with someone face-to-face and have a good time. Whether that's gaming, watching stuff or just plain ol' talking with eachother.

The point is: Get offline and interact with another human being.

Online friends are great, they are, but even today online shit just cannot compare to actually being around others and just doing...stuff together.

In conclusion: The general idea of "Touch Grass" isn't just a meme/insult, there's real truth to that shit.

  • Awoo [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    Good for you. A solid reliable offline tabletop group is hard to get and stick with. Hold onto them because turnover of tabletop groups is often high and a stable one is worth clinging to.

    • UlyssesT [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      :this:

      One of the hardest social decisions I ever had to make was cutting ties with a long-time but toxic friend who was also a passive-aggressive wet blanket tabletop player that didn't technically break any of the rules but seemed to dislike the group and everyone in it, except apparently me, maybe. One day, after months of slowly making the group miserable, he demanded that I choose my game group or him for prioritizing my free time, and I finally told him to take a hike and don't look back.

      • UlyssesT [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        this is after we had to boot a player for being a complete fucking asshole after the Roe v Wade decision (nearly half our group is women)

        :order-of-lenin:

          • UlyssesT [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            I did it with a silly emoji, but I am sincerely proud of you for doing the right thing. It isn't easy evicting a toxic player, especially if they're friends with someone else in the group and cutting them loose causes tearing damage with the rest of the social fabric.

            I had to do it several times and none of those times were easy.

            ... How the fuck did that chud keep chudding for that many hours without the women at the table stabbing him?

              • UlyssesT [he/him]
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                2 years ago

                One of the chuds I had to (instantly, once mask off) cut loose and do some jagged social damage with the rest of the group started going off about what Joe Rogan said the other day and said how "triggered" members of the group were, unprompted.

                He waved the "military vet with PTSD" card for why no one but him was allowed to be triggered. :frothingfash:

                  • UlyssesT [he/him]
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                    2 years ago

                    That was his argument with different words. He argued that only killing and watching people die was legitimate trauma. He didn't just hate empathy... he was an empathy vampire.

                  • UlyssesT [he/him]
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                    2 years ago

                    being an asshole was more important than empathy

                    "I'm just telling it like it is! I have no filter! Facts don't care about your feelings! Everyone is so sensitive these days! Nothing offends me! Except others being offended!" :frothingfash:

    • StellarTabi [none/use name]
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      2 years ago

      also on top of all that, finding one where you're "a member" and not "a member's annoying gf", what a nightmare...

      • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
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        2 years ago

        Oh man, that sucks. Half my friend group is just bfs/gfs of other friends.

        Some of the coolest people I know got introduced through other people's OKCupid adventures or some IRL dating.