I love y'all, don't get me wrong, but I joined a weekly in-person DnD group a few weeks ago with some friends and that has done more for my mental and emotional wellbeing than this or any other website ever has.
It doesn't have to be a tabletop group, it doesn't even have to be a group, it can be one best friend that you're particularly close with, just get together with someone face-to-face and have a good time. Whether that's gaming, watching stuff or just plain ol' talking with eachother.
The point is: Get offline and interact with another human being.
Online friends are great, they are, but even today online shit just cannot compare to actually being around others and just doing...stuff together.
In conclusion: The general idea of "Touch Grass" isn't just a meme/insult, there's real truth to that shit.
Oh, get a friend? Just get a friend? Why don't I strap on my friend helmet and squeeze down into a friend cannon and fire off into friend land, where friends grow on friendies?!
I think there's a place like that, but you need to have a magic mirror or compatible device and I hope you like pastel-colored talking horses.
All of my RL friends live hours away at best and most are largely absorbed with having families, none of them have nearly as strong of a meme game as me though, so who's the real winner?
My meme game is better than my friends' toddlers', too, and yet those so-called friends want to hang out with a bunch of illiterate Disney enthusiasts instead of prioritizing the company of their old pal Wertheimer. Shit is fucked.
Just to preface i have irl friends but this post feels highly highly dismissive of how hard it is to make irl friends. I got lucky and kept the ones I made at school but making any new ones outside of the og group is fucking impossible. People are either a) assholes b) have their own lives and friends c) you just dont have the history they're not that invested in you.
Here's the thing. If people could make irl friends they bloody well would have done already. Its like telling someone to stop being depressed or poor you think they want to be in this state?
Good for you. A solid reliable offline tabletop group is hard to get and stick with. Hold onto them because turnover of tabletop groups is often high and a stable one is worth clinging to.
:this:
One of the hardest social decisions I ever had to make was cutting ties with a long-time but toxic friend who was also a passive-aggressive wet blanket tabletop player that didn't technically break any of the rules but seemed to dislike the group and everyone in it, except apparently me, maybe. One day, after months of slowly making the group miserable, he demanded that I choose my game group or him for prioritizing my free time, and I finally told him to take a hike and don't look back.
this is after we had to boot a player for being a complete fucking asshole after the Roe v Wade decision (nearly half our group is women)
:order-of-lenin:
I did it with a silly emoji, but I am sincerely proud of you for doing the right thing. It isn't easy evicting a toxic player, especially if they're friends with someone else in the group and cutting them loose causes tearing damage with the rest of the social fabric.
I had to do it several times and none of those times were easy.
... How the fuck did that chud keep chudding for that many hours without the women at the table stabbing him?
One of the chuds I had to (instantly, once mask off) cut loose and do some jagged social damage with the rest of the group started going off about what Joe Rogan said the other day and said how "triggered" members of the group were, unprompted.
He waved the "military vet with PTSD" card for why no one but him was allowed to be triggered. :frothingfash:
That was his argument with different words. He argued that only killing and watching people die was legitimate trauma. He didn't just hate empathy... he was an empathy vampire.
being an asshole was more important than empathy
"I'm just telling it like it is! I have no filter! Facts don't care about your feelings! Everyone is so sensitive these days! Nothing offends me! Except others being offended!" :frothingfash:
also on top of all that, finding one where you're "a member" and not "a member's annoying gf", what a nightmare...
Oh man, that sucks. Half my friend group is just bfs/gfs of other friends.
Some of the coolest people I know got introduced through other people's OKCupid adventures or some IRL dating.
I'll be honest: I don't want to interact with my old friends anymore and idk how to make new friends. All of my old friends are kinda assholes who are super inconsiderate of other people and I don't really feel a connection to them anymore. They're people who I grew up with and that's it. But finding new friends who I actually gel with is so hard as an adult
All of my old friends are kinda assholes who are super inconsiderate of other people and I don’t really feel a connection to them anymore.
My old college-age friend group was forged in South Park (me included :cringe: ) and when I started going left and started actually caring about more than myself, I sort of chipped away when Rick and Morty became the old group's new ideological guidebook.
Disclaimer: I believe it's possible to be a leftist and comrade while enjoying Rick and Morty, but I'm speaking from my own subjective personal experience where the world started becoming too awful for me to un-see it and yet my old college friends were going full "sometimes Mr. President you just have to not give a fuck!" then ironically diving into the G*mergate-era culture wars, "taking the red pill" :jordan-eboy-peterson: , getting very mad about the 2016 Ghostbusters movie, and so on. :so-true:
I'm a trans communist from rural Minnesota. Offline friends aren't going to happen.
You might be surprised, I live in a relatively rural part of Georgia, and found that there were like three SRA members that live within 10 minutes of me
Who is this post for? I haven't seen anyone say that this website is a substitute for a social life.
This is a trip report. Grass was touched and it was good. A++ would recommend
What would a boomer grillman wifeguy be like though? Would his wife have to also be the grill, like in that one scene in Hot Shots?
He’d be Hank Hill. Sip beers with the boys and cherish the wife and son :Bwaaa:
:Bwaaa: "Peggy! Who's outside the house screaming, 'Go have friends in real life'? Show yourself you coward!"
that heard a rumor that you had a boyfriend, that looked like a girlfriend,
Woman I like gets extremely absorbed in social media drama and I've quit everything aside from Hexbear. Was recently explaining how much of my mental energy was spent mulling over arguments and how to dunk on people and she sends me these screenshots basically wanting my input on the best way to insult them. It's just so hard for me to fake giving a shit about any of these squabbles that rarely leaves anyone with a different point of view once I managed to distance myself from it.
Since I'm not directly bickering with these people it doesn't trigger the anxiety I'd get from FB or :reddit-logo:, and I enjoy the interaction with her even if the subject matter is less than ideal. Kinda view it as watching a TV show that I may not be really into but the other person likes. She used to try and get me to jump in that I would just tend to ignore and I think got the hint that I wasn't particularly enthusiastic about the prospect.
As someone who has no in person friends left and is suffering because of it i endorse this post.
