In schools there are at least some more mitigating factors than there are in home "schools". If children are abused there are not only hundreds of other kids there but also a few dozen teachers or administrators. At home there's just mom and dad, if they're abusing you nobody is going to notice let alone save you. And I fully empathize with you on the bullying but I'm not sure you're applying the same logic to the home school as you are to the "government" schools. If you applied the same lens equally you might (might, and also, I could be wrong) realize that the issue of abuse and bullying is actually just as much, maybe more of an issue at home than it is as school.