Edit: I’m going to sleep, I’m not ignoring you if it takes like 12 hours for a response.
I can elaborate if you have questions that help clear things up, suffice it to say I’m doing normal ass things and they’ll walk by and pat me on back saying “good job” in the voice one uses when a puppy begs to be let out instead of pissing on the floor.
How the fuck do I go to HR and not sound paranoid/persecution complex” about this? They took it a step further today and the meat department asshole I’ve posted about wanting to duel (damn the consequences) about before slapped my shoulder (I’m not even comfortable with a gentle pat) and said “what a perfectly adequate job you’re doing”. Of course the house trained ….pick a word that I am said “thanks for the compliment”.
I’m going to lose my job after flipping out if I allow them to continue this, yet alone escalating.
Advice?
P.S the people I work with in my department are basically just normies. No better or worse than average American. The deli guy fucking called me little one and I’m still pissed about that because I have a height complex even though Reddit losers have turned into that meaning child and I can’t tell which direction he meant it in.
I'll just throw an alternative perspective comrade. Instead of confronting them in the moment, do so out of the context of an aggressive act. You might even say "I don't need you to praise me for my work, just tell me when I'm not doing something right please". You might put more thought into that, but I feel there's a way to give that sense.
I'll just say whenever I get praise, even sincerely for exceptional work, I have a lot of trouble with it. So it's not like it's not a real feeling (even divorced from passive aggressive bullying type situations).
I'd just say (and I mentioned this above and in my other comment), whatever you do, do it outside of an incident. You're less likely to fight/argue/etc
That’s good advice. I don’t particularly enjoy praise either, even if I know it’s genuine.