Even when I was a conservative / libertarian, I never had any urge to ever say that word. Why is it so important for so many white folks to be able to say it?
Yup. Even when a black person says "ok, you can say it, I won't care," they're too afraid to say it, or they don't actually want to say it lol. They're just used to everything being available at all times. Basically spoiled brats who have a closet full of toys and games but is mad at Tommy because his one new toy gets so much attention, but then once he gets the same toy he just tosses it in the closet
White people see the edges of decency and inclusion differently because of their privilege. Not being able to say a word that a black person can say is at that boundary, it's the "big deal" boundary against which to push for them because a white person's place in society is normative and they barely have to deal with anything racialized, themselves.
A similar black person's boundary is whether to push back against some casual racism because you don't know if violence will be the response. Of course there are much worse things black people deal with at this boundary, this is a very generous example.
Even when I was a conservative / libertarian, I never had any urge to ever say that word. Why is it so important for so many white folks to be able to say it?
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Yup. Even when a black person says "ok, you can say it, I won't care," they're too afraid to say it, or they don't actually want to say it lol. They're just used to everything being available at all times. Basically spoiled brats who have a closet full of toys and games but is mad at Tommy because his one new toy gets so much attention, but then once he gets the same toy he just tosses it in the closet
White people see the edges of decency and inclusion differently because of their privilege. Not being able to say a word that a black person can say is at that boundary, it's the "big deal" boundary against which to push for them because a white person's place in society is normative and they barely have to deal with anything racialized, themselves.
A similar black person's boundary is whether to push back against some casual racism because you don't know if violence will be the response. Of course there are much worse things black people deal with at this boundary, this is a very generous example.