I hate to struggle but I do think you probably should ask if someone has dietary restrictions before you make food for them. I don't think it makes you a bad person or anything if you do it though, just kind of a dumbass.
in principle, in general? Yea, sure, of course it is sensible to ask. But to call it ableism seems wholly disingenuous to me.
Also, just because you asked, doesn't mean you can actually accommodate it, unless your kitchen is already stocked with that restriction in mind. Gluten, to take a common restriction, is hiding in all sorts of things, even spices as a separator and milk products as a stabilizer - you're not gonna cook gluten free for a day one time, unless you plan for it when shopping or you do it every time anyway. Or it's a very simple meal, I guess.
Yeah I agree with that, but if you can't accommodate it you probably shouldn't make anything for them, and it's better to know ahead of time regardless.
Or you just make a chili like you always make your chili with the things you have and offer to share it with whoever can have it too - and if, unlikely as it may be, nobody can eat your chili, or wants your chili, you can still just eat it yourself.
I don't get the drive to over-complicate the whole thing, in an effort to do what? Sure, there's a minimal risk involved that the neighbors won't want your chili for whatever reason, but that's just life and it's not like chili goes bad in an hour. You could even freeze leftovers
It's a social ritual thing. Introducing yourself by way of a gift, or meeting with an exchange of gifts, has been a tradition across human culture for millenia. Of course, if the gift is useful, it's best, but what is more fundamental is the gesture. It's saying, "Hey, welcome! I'm a friend and not a threat. To demonstrate that, I'm going to freely give you some of what I have."
So if one's neighbor brings them something they can't eat, they just thank them and decline, or ritually accept it and then quietly dispose of it.
I hate to struggle but I do think you probably should ask if someone has dietary restrictions before you make food for them. I don't think it makes you a bad person or anything if you do it though, just kind of a dumbass.
in principle, in general? Yea, sure, of course it is sensible to ask. But to call it ableism seems wholly disingenuous to me.
Also, just because you asked, doesn't mean you can actually accommodate it, unless your kitchen is already stocked with that restriction in mind. Gluten, to take a common restriction, is hiding in all sorts of things, even spices as a separator and milk products as a stabilizer - you're not gonna cook gluten free for a day one time, unless you plan for it when shopping or you do it every time anyway. Or it's a very simple meal, I guess.
Yeah I agree with that, but if you can't accommodate it you probably shouldn't make anything for them, and it's better to know ahead of time regardless.
Or you just make a chili like you always make your chili with the things you have and offer to share it with whoever can have it too - and if, unlikely as it may be, nobody can eat your chili, or wants your chili, you can still just eat it yourself.
I don't get the drive to over-complicate the whole thing, in an effort to do what? Sure, there's a minimal risk involved that the neighbors won't want your chili for whatever reason, but that's just life and it's not like chili goes bad in an hour. You could even freeze leftovers
IMO you bring food to your neighbors because you appreciate them, bringing something they can't eat defeats the purpose
It's a social ritual thing. Introducing yourself by way of a gift, or meeting with an exchange of gifts, has been a tradition across human culture for millenia. Of course, if the gift is useful, it's best, but what is more fundamental is the gesture. It's saying, "Hey, welcome! I'm a friend and not a threat. To demonstrate that, I'm going to freely give you some of what I have."
So if one's neighbor brings them something they can't eat, they just thank them and decline, or ritually accept it and then quietly dispose of it.