I've always been hesitant to try online dating because 1.) I'm a guy 2.) I look like hell 3.) the algorithm prioritizes profit.

But lately I feel like it may be easier to throw my expectations out there and cross my fingers. Seems easier than trying to speak to people in person. But then again, the human aspect sorta just disappears too and I'm now stuck in a game of numbers, and perhaps quite literally as apps line Tinder gamify their services.

Anyway, I don't have anyone I could call a close friend. Hell, I don't even have anyone to call in general lol. I'm thinking it's a bad idea to dip my toes in that crap because I have nowhere to turn when the rejections inevitably come in. Plus at least with face-to-face interactions, I can have some sort of closure (I don't really know how to articulate this part. I guess being able to read faces will give me a better chance of understanding what I did wrong vs. emotionless text on a screen).

  • Shoegazer [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    Surely you know people. What’s your strategy for turning acquaintances into friends?

    If we talk regularly outside of school, I'd consider us friends. But other than that, there is no strategy

    • old_goat [none/use name]
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      2 years ago

      Looking at your post about friends and contacts it sounds like you are doing things right. You might consider making plans to go places or events and invite those contacts to come. Can you make yourself sound excited about events happening in your town?