I've always been hesitant to try online dating because 1.) I'm a guy 2.) I look like hell 3.) the algorithm prioritizes profit.

But lately I feel like it may be easier to throw my expectations out there and cross my fingers. Seems easier than trying to speak to people in person. But then again, the human aspect sorta just disappears too and I'm now stuck in a game of numbers, and perhaps quite literally as apps line Tinder gamify their services.

Anyway, I don't have anyone I could call a close friend. Hell, I don't even have anyone to call in general lol. I'm thinking it's a bad idea to dip my toes in that crap because I have nowhere to turn when the rejections inevitably come in. Plus at least with face-to-face interactions, I can have some sort of closure (I don't really know how to articulate this part. I guess being able to read faces will give me a better chance of understanding what I did wrong vs. emotionless text on a screen).

  • BitDetectorBot [none/use name]
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    2 years ago

    Agree. It's tempting to do online dating because there's a more well-worn path to that than to making friends, but making friends is better long term. Or at least it would be for me. I empathize with how hard it is. Some dating apps like bumble have a friend making function

    Not that this should be a deciding factor but some people are wary of dating someone who doesn't have an independent support system, for the reason the above poster mentioned. Good luck comrade