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My girlfriend and I have been talking about entering an open relationship the last 3 years. We’ve been together for 6 and had our ups and downs but we’ve been really solid the last two years. We love each other and I say our relationship is strong.

The last week, we’ve been laying ground rules for potentially opening up our relationship. We want to keep it very casual with other people.

Anyone willing to share their experience both good or bad?

  • Tomboys_are_Cute [he/him, comrade/them]
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    2 years ago

    So my experience being in one for over a year and counting is the openness has been pretty one-sided. At the start of our relationship we talked it out and my partner was very clear they wanted an open relationship, I personally am monogamous but my partner was very good about setting ground rules (no other romantic interests, sex is fine as well as whatever leads up to that, and we tell each other before we do anything with anyone else). At the start I figured "yeah I'm mature, I'm a big man and can handle it. Maybe I'll even find someone for a side fling. Being jealous is toxic anyways."

    Part of me agreeing to it was because I knew I was going to be away a lot, I knew I would be out of town with some movie work for a couple months total in this past year. I think I've always felt it was a bit begrudging, but I love them and I know they love me so I make it work. Communication has helped a lot, they have always told me whenever they are going to have another partner so I've never been wondering. But jealousy is real, I think I'm going to have a talk with them about our relationship sometime soon because I don't like it.