Like from what I understand you're not allowed to touch the workers because then it becomes prostitution. So like. A bunch of boys just get together and sit down to watch some girls dancing naked? And they just kinda grin at each other and say "hey isn't it awesome when there's boobs?"

You can't jerk off so they just go to get boners with their buddies? You can do that at home. You can just watch porn with the fellas or have a circlejerk.

I've never understood why it's seen as a straight masculine thing to go to a place where the only thing you can do is get horny with other men.

  • dannoffs [he/him]
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    2 months ago

    I didn't realize how low the bar was until I was on a date and she showed me what most of the messages she gets on dating apps are like.

    • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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      2 months ago

      Yeah I went out with a cis bi woman and she was showing me too. Even lots of the trans women were.. surprising 😬😬

      • dannoffs [he/him]
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        2 months ago

        The person in my story is Filipino and the blatant mix of sexism and racism in her inbox was fucking nuts. I literally got a date by being the only person who wasn't horny or racist in the first few messages.

        • EmoThugInMyPhase [he/him]
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          2 months ago

          I’m curious what these people’s tactics are. Like I’m sure many are genuinely deliberately hateful and want their intention is to cause harm. But then there are people who are genuinely not house trained and think saying something about a woman’s tits or how their brown skin makes them hard is acceptable, with their full face showing lol

          • dannoffs [he/him]
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            2 months ago

            This was like 7 years ago now but the amount of people who will just straight up say they have "yellow fever" or who thought "is it true that Asian women [insert wildly racist stereotype]?" Was a good first message blew me away.

            • EmoThugInMyPhase [he/him]
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              2 months ago

              I have a Vietnamese friend and she told me that she stopped dating non Asian guys because they keep asking her about Korea and whether she’ll be submissive (I don’t remember if they said that directly, but the general theme was that)