• Ithorian [comrade/them]
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    2 years ago

    Thats even true for slightly older age brackets. I'm almost 40 and there are obviously 20 year olds I find attractive but the thought of being with one at this point is just fucking weird. The power dynamic is a bit different then with a literal teenager but I couldn't stand the maturity difference, I was a fucking dumb ass at 20 so were all of my friends.

      • Ithorian [comrade/them]
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        2 years ago

        At some point age stops matter so much, not really sure when it is though, probably early to mid thirties by then you've fully matured. Like at 33 being with a 40 year old might sound a little strange but there's no power dynamics at play as you're easily at the same life stage.

          • Ithorian [comrade/them]
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            2 years ago
            (CW: Sexism, Self own)

            When I was in my early/mid 20s and in shape as hell my buddies and I used to go a bar frequented by middle aged professional women to go "cougar hunting" the obvious goal being getting picked up by hot well off women in their late 30s-40s. But everyone knew exactly what was going on so I don't really think there was any issue as no long term relationships were involved power issues and maturity never had a chance to come into play.
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            • FourteenEyes [he/him]
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              2 years ago

              I think that's more that casual sex and hookups don't really last long enough for power dynamics to, well, do much of anything.

            • mazdak
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              1 year ago

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              • blue_lives_murder [they/them]
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                2 years ago

                We're not weird about sex. We're hypervigilant about hornyposting in response being :awooga: over fem bodies in nonsexual contexts because otherwise a forum turns into a misogynistic cesspool before you know it.

                Volcel gets posted in plenty of other contexts but that's the origin and it's working great. This is one of the few places on the internet you can scroll through without feeling objectified.

      • Phish [he/him, any]
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        2 years ago

        I don't think it's an inappropriate relationship or anything, but being in my mid-30s, the idea of hitting on women in their mid-twenties would honestly just be embarrassing.