I think it also has to do with what teens of those genders feel and how they express it. Teen girls are pressured to look beautiful and act in opposite ways(punished for being modest and also for being promiscuous). This causes sorrow for never quite being "right" for society, and despair because this new state seems to only get worse moving forward. Women are also socialized not to act out, so only sadness can manifest. For teen boys, they're told to grow up and be a man but aren't actually allowed to do adult things yet, and slowly have to grind through the worst version of adult things(awful summer jobs instead of regular employment, beater cars or just walking, drinking cheap and bad alcohol.) Men are socialized to act out more, so negative feelings manifest as anger and defiance. This period of life seems interminable before the real thing starts, so it leads to lasjing out wishing to skip ahead.

Being quiet and resigned is taken as maturity compared to being belligerent and loud.