Listen up fuckers, cause none of this applies to anybody on this site specifically and I'm just bitching.

I don't have to accomodate neurotypicals who say horseshit like "I don't want to keep a tone tag reference sheet open to have a conversation though", that has officially stopped being a me problem. Similarly, if your response to that is "Communication is a two-way street, so a communication issue is often also a two-way thing", that doesn't sound like I have to accomodate YOUR misunderstanding of MY words, however you have decided to read them. If you decide even in spite of tone tags that I'm being an asshole, frankly get fucked and go decide someone else's emotional state for them. Hell, even if I didn't use tone tags, I shouldn't be required to fucking defend myself from your literal spurious accusations. I've had enough of your disingenuous assertions.

I'm pretty understanding about misreads, just ask me what I meant instead of fucking assuming the absolute worst in people all the time, and also do not go around expecting neurodiverse people to accomodate whatever YOU read into their words all the time. Your fucking problem. It's not their job to sort out your preconceptions and accept whatever emotions you decide for them, which was the point of what I was saying anyway. Ableist shit.

This type of thing has become pretty traumatic over the course of like ten of exactly this type of bullshit, so I don't have the will to cause problems and fight about it but I'm also not willing to constantly cede ground for free to neurotypical expectations.

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  • PKMKII [none/use name]
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    7 months ago

    I don’t identify as neurodivergent, but I tend to misread/assume negative (which is the result of my own set of traumas and history that I need to police). And it’s a stark contrast, because you’re saying you tend to be understanding as a neurodiverse individual with misreads, holy shit most neurotypical people are the exact opposite. Zero consideration that they might have been putting out negative signals, it must be the person misreading‘a fault.

      • ashinadash [she/her]
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        7 months ago

        That behaviour from neurotypicals often comes across as sanctimonious "how could you do this to me, I'm just a smol bean!!!" type shit as they accuse you of being the son of Mussolini. It also means they cannot imagine that you genuinely aren't assuming ill intent in people, it's bizarre. They end up projecting their own hostility onto you.

          • ashinadash [she/her]
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            7 months ago

            Me either, NTs just adore attacking people I guess! /s More seriously, I think they do genuinely get offended and hurt by... things they project onto us.

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      7 months ago

      I'm doin' that right now I guess, so flay my ass if you're gonna. If people are willing to be nice to me I'm not gonna destroy them, I try to avoid conflict basically all the time. I hate with a passion when people just decide I've said something because I'm a bastard or whatever.

      But yeah, they can accuse people of being mad all day and yet will lose their shit at same...