just wanted to let everyone know that i do read everything, react IRL, and upbear. my social anxiety and ADHD has crawled even into my posting/commenting online which i was immune to when younger. i was wild in early forums and chatrooms

also not sure how long is too long to reply. things move slower in the lemmyverse but i'm so afraid of a reply being too "stale"

whats everyone else think about reply/comment protocol real or imagined?

  • Magician [he/him, they/them]
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    8 months ago

    I also feel this anxiety in other parts of my life too.

    I try to reply to everyone and I'm afraid it makes me come off as intense or competitive (like I need to get in the last word) when I'm really just trying to say I heard and read what you said. Or I try to make it clear I'm not upset with something or ignoring them on purpose.

    My parents didn't pay much attention to me growing up, and I think that's something that affects the way I interact with people. I don't want people to feel like I'm ignoring them or that I don't care, so I try to reply when I can.

    On the other hand, that's overwhelming, and honestly untenable. Otherwise, I would reply to my texts, emails, etc.

    I don't think many people are built for all the ways we communicate these days.