As a member of at least 4 letters of LGBTQ+, I don't need "compassion", I need fucking action, which has not been forthcoming in the current Biden presidency.

My new favourite angle for debating the Vote Blue No Matter Who types is to bait them into describing how Biden cannot address any of the issues that matter to you, especially if you can get them to do so in detail, by asking them what Biden has actually done. If necessary summarise their arguments when appropriate to get them to agree that Biden cannot do anything.

Then once the conversation has reached its natural conclusion and you have given them enough signals that they think they've managed to convert you, tell them that you've decided that you cannot vote for Biden in good conscience because they've just convinced you that Biden is completely incapable of achieving anything.

Puts them in a real double-bind because either they have to argue that Biden could actually do something but he just doesn't care to or that he wants to do things but he can't, but either side of that argument is going to lose your vote.

The synthesis of those contradictions is either arguing for you being more realistic in your politics, at which point the easy response is that if the political reality is handing over your vote in the knowledge that there will be no changes for the better then that is in itself defeatism or a kind of political nihilism, or to say that things will get worse under Trump, at which point you have them because it's hard to imagine being more personally at odds with someone whose politics is "There are worse things than genocide".