This might shock some people here, but there are online communities that have no problem with this and are pretty positive and also anti anything creepy/exploitative:
Nothing is wrong with dating a significantly older person, it’s wrong to date a significantly younger person, imo if you’re over 25 you shouldn’t seek out relationships with anyone under 25. A pre existing relationship is okay though.
"Seek out" as in actively pursue sure, like as in you WANT a relationship with a younger person. But if you, like I did, happen to meet a younger (adult) person online and hit it off with them I dont see the problem. She chose me and is perfectly capable of doing so. The only reason it would be wrong is if she wasnt. Plus I'm autistic and developmentally delayed, and autistic people often form relationships outside their age bracket. I think you need to widen your view to some nuance here.
Dont pressure individual relationships. Apply the pressure in a general sense. Just talk publicly about how its creepy and predatory for older people to actively pursue relationships with people significantly younger than them.
general pressure is a product of pressure in individual cases just as the individual cases are a product of the general pressure.
You cannot have a cultural taboo that is never enforced. For example wearing shoes indoors this would not be a taboo if no one ever told anyone off about it
imo if you’re over 25 you shouldn’t seek out relationships with anyone under 25
Meh I think almost everyone in their 20s, and 30s to be honest with you, are pretty immature. At least in the US and this kind of spans across class and race and other identifiers.
I didn't meant to say that was bad, just that my perception would be the same if someone was dating way older or way younger Not saying anything should be regretted either
This might shock some people here, but there are online communities that have no problem with this and are pretty positive and also anti anything creepy/exploitative:
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https://www.reddit.com/r/agegaprelationship
https://www.reddit.com/r/AgeGap/
Nothing is wrong with dating a significantly older person, it’s wrong to date a significantly younger person, imo if you’re over 25 you shouldn’t seek out relationships with anyone under 25. A pre existing relationship is okay though.
"Seek out" as in actively pursue sure, like as in you WANT a relationship with a younger person. But if you, like I did, happen to meet a younger (adult) person online and hit it off with them I dont see the problem. She chose me and is perfectly capable of doing so. The only reason it would be wrong is if she wasnt. Plus I'm autistic and developmentally delayed, and autistic people often form relationships outside their age bracket. I think you need to widen your view to some nuance here.
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The answer here is that third parties should stop trying to judge relationships between consenting adults lmao.
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Dont pressure individual relationships. Apply the pressure in a general sense. Just talk publicly about how its creepy and predatory for older people to actively pursue relationships with people significantly younger than them.
pressure can only be applied in the individual case. There is no broader cultural pressure that can exist without manifesting in individual cases
General pressure will apply pressure to individual cases I guess but? I disagree that pressure can only be applied in the individual cases.
general pressure is a product of pressure in individual cases just as the individual cases are a product of the general pressure.
You cannot have a cultural taboo that is never enforced. For example wearing shoes indoors this would not be a taboo if no one ever told anyone off about it
Meh I think almost everyone in their 20s, and 30s to be honest with you, are pretty immature. At least in the US and this kind of spans across class and race and other identifiers.
I think it is weird in both cases. If one of my friends who is 25 was dating a 60 year old would find it highly bizarre
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I didn't meant to say that was bad, just that my perception would be the same if someone was dating way older or way younger Not saying anything should be regretted either