• usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    I know when I was that age I would have thought the same and now realise how much maturing I have done since.

    Every case is different and your case sounds like it's fine but I think as a general rule the power dynamics at play between a 19 year old and an older adult do not leave them on an equal playing field and I believe consent does require being on equal footing

    • autismdragon [he/him, they/them]
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      2 years ago

      My rule with age gap relationships between adults is that they arent inherently wrong, but the older partner has to be careful about how they approach the situation so they do not abuse the power dynamic.

      I believe consent does require being on equal footing

      There are definitly power dynamics too wide for consent to be a thing, but they are also power dynamics that are on the smaller end of things where consent isnt IMPOSSIBLE, just dicey.