I found one lady who talks about reading critical theory (or playing the same video game over and over again while listening to history podcasts really) and dystopian futures and being a maladjusted and empathetic person that likes jokes and is all "hmu if u also sad and disheveled" on her profile, and I'm all "I was born for this social connection :large-adult-son: "

Try putting yourself out there, Hexbears, even if you get ghosted or passed on or it ends in disappointment, you believed in yourself enough to try and that can do something for your self-esteem in and of itself

Even if this ends in disaster and the concentrated social scorn of all women on earth converges on me to make me spontaneously combust I was all "I like myself enough to believe I can connect with people again" :joker-gaming: :joker-dancing:

EDIT: To be clear the advice is not "append your self-worth to a dating profile" it's "believe in yourself enough to try dating in whatever form that takes, you'll feel better about yourself for entertaining the possibility"

Also I sent a message to that possible commie/anarchist girl saying she seems cool and i like her sense of humor and her pics are cute, I expect the FBI to kick down my door for being a creep and taze me until I explode like an enemy in Syphon Filter within the hour

  • Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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    2 years ago

    Please, do not, under any circumstances, start online dating to improve your self esteem. Literal worst advice you could ever give to anyone, I’m sorry OP.

    • FourteenEyes [he/him]
      hexagon
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      2 years ago

      the self-esteem comes from believing in myself enough to think I can weather the blows to my ego striking out on this website will inflict on me

      I'm also trying to go out and meet people IRL but I'm in my 30s and it's hard to make friends, especially when you really sucked at it for most of your life