Help me settle a bet plz

  • MF_COOM [he/him]
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    edit-2
    2 years ago

    Thank you for the effort-post, but I think you're missing my point maybe? Like I am aware of everything you wrote but that's not really what I'm getting at.

    My point is there's a difference between thinking "I feel like a man" and thinking "the category 'man' doesn't have any meaningful characteristics or boundaries to me, beyond the understanding that some people impose their expectations of their conception of 'manness' on other people."

    • Changeling [it/its]
      hexagon
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      2 years ago

      I think I relate to what you’re saying. When I used to try and think of manhood without patriarchal toxicity, it was literally an empty category. This was distressing to me, though, because I considered myself a man at the time. I found a lot of value in reading the writing of trans men. The way that trans men construct masculinity put a lot into perspective for me, I guess. It’s not a fence, it’s a beacon.