Help me settle a bet plz

  • Changeling [it/its]
    hexagon
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    2 years ago

    It’s really interesting seeing cis people wrestling with the same questions I’ve talked through with so many trans friends. Wish I had a definitive answer but I don’t. That’s why so much of it is about self-identification at the end of the day

    Edit: maybe “comfortably aligned with assigned gender” would be a better phrasing

    • TillieNeuen [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      I think the closest I've ever come to understanding how a trans person feels was in a Contrapoints (I know, controversial) video where she responded to a TERF asking why she couldn't just live as a feminine man, and Natalie was like, "I don't know, why don't YOU life as a feminine man?" and I immediately thought "absolutely not."

      • Changeling [it/its]
        hexagon
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        2 years ago

        Yup. That’s really all it is. I didn’t think I was trans for a long time because I had that reaction to being a woman. Then I realized I also had that reaction to being a man. Can be a little harder to recognize when you’re used to it.