dating in the 90s/00s sounds terrible imo, I was almost too young to actually experience 99% of it.
If you're Christian, you meet at church, that's probably easy to find someone who likes Christian Totalitarianism and nothing has changed even up to this date.
If you like being at bars 24/7, you meet at bars, that's probably easy to find someone who likes that and nothing has changed even up to this date.
Otherwise, if you didn't find the one in highschool or have an extensive friend network, you basically have to be awkwardly forward with every random person you find in the street, or hope every hot guy you want is awkwardly forward at you, meanwhile lots of unwanted randos bothering you in the streets or at hobbies.
Dating apps efficiently gather all the "hey, im looking, who's looking?" energy and focuses that into a tighter network with higher signal/noise ratio. IRL has to be better as a result, the randos bothering you in the street are probably the ones who are too much of a bozo to get on an online app. "Girl detected" in hobbiest environments will always be a problem, but it can't be worse, right? feminism and wokeness has the changed the world so that women are, to some degree, more allowed to be at hobbies without functioning as arm candy.
The main issue with dating apps today is probably spam, catfishing, and what I'd call "the incel problem". The first two are obvious, but what exactly do you with people who's standards are higher than their own personality/looks can justify? or are otherwise unlovable?
every social interaction is a performance blah blah blah but I was able to "be myself" in a college social environment and met somebody. The contortions of these online meat markets don't allow that at all.
focuses that into a tighter network with higher signal/noise ratio
Japan used to have this thing where you wore a tiny beeper/pager thing that looked for other beeper/pagers waiting for its signal, and if they beeped, you were prompted to ask the single person out to break the ice.
That seems less fucked up than the deliberately designed to make you linger and pay money grifts of today.
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dating in the 90s/00s sounds terrible imo, I was almost too young to actually experience 99% of it.
If you're Christian, you meet at church, that's probably easy to find someone who likes Christian Totalitarianism and nothing has changed even up to this date.
If you like being at bars 24/7, you meet at bars, that's probably easy to find someone who likes that and nothing has changed even up to this date.
Otherwise, if you didn't find the one in highschool or have an extensive friend network, you basically have to be awkwardly forward with every random person you find in the street, or hope every hot guy you want is awkwardly forward at you, meanwhile lots of unwanted randos bothering you in the streets or at hobbies.
Dating apps efficiently gather all the "hey, im looking, who's looking?" energy and focuses that into a tighter network with higher signal/noise ratio. IRL has to be better as a result, the randos bothering you in the street are probably the ones who are too much of a bozo to get on an online app. "Girl detected" in hobbiest environments will always be a problem, but it can't be worse, right? feminism and wokeness has the changed the world so that women are, to some degree, more allowed to be at hobbies without functioning as arm candy.
The main issue with dating apps today is probably spam, catfishing, and what I'd call "the incel problem". The first two are obvious, but what exactly do you with people who's standards are higher than their own personality/looks can justify? or are otherwise unlovable?
I've had mostly a good time on apps personally.
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:jokerfication: i hate how I have to perform. It feels like I’m living in marvel world where everyone needs to be a comedian to get attention
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every social interaction is a performance blah blah blah but I was able to "be myself" in a college social environment and met somebody. The contortions of these online meat markets don't allow that at all.
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i'm not sure what you're on about, masking and having scripts are absolutely performance
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why do I have to have an interesting busy life with hobbies and activities? 😟
we ALL have that friend who is clearly a 4/10 with pedophile aesthetics and exclusively pines for 9/10s.
that's a bit extreme but physical attraction is a requirement for most allos
Japan used to have this thing where you wore a tiny beeper/pager thing that looked for other beeper/pagers waiting for its signal, and if they beeped, you were prompted to ask the single person out to break the ice.
That seems less fucked up than the deliberately designed to make you linger and pay money grifts of today.