Like, it's probably more noticeable that you don't have any romantic or sexual relationships than it would be if you don't have any true, close, platonic connections. Romantic and sexual relationships have things that are very obvious and for the most part, exclusive to them, such as kissing, making out, sex, etc. Platonic relationships that are true and close are not as visible, they're more feelings on the inside (not to say that there's none of those feelings involved with romantic and sexual relationships). If you look exclusively at the activities done with a platonic friendship, it's not very different from an acquaintanceship, or an activity partner.
I've met people who claim they have friends, but they're just coworkers they talk to a bit, guys they play games with, or guys they see at the sports bar a lot. Not people who actually support each other or any true connection. Now granted, there's nothing wrong with having those acquaintanceships or activity partners, and it can be argued that they're necessary for a fulfilling life, but they're not the same as a true connection or friendship. If you've never had that or hadn't had it in a while, it can be hard to tell what that feels like.
The only way to make these connections is through social skills, which a lot of people lack. They lack social skills, so they don't make connections, platonic or romantic. Since romantic and sexual connections have more exclusive activities, it's more easy to notice them than the lack of true friends. So I'm wondering if all this talk about the lack of romance and sex is really just poor social skills.
There tends to be a vicious cycles. Guys who are loanly get sad, sad people are never fun to be around, so you don't wanna hang out with a sad guy. I had had times in my life where I have had to work hard to get out of that cycle. Given hoe isolated we are as Americans it is pretty easy to imagine lots of people getting into unfortunate patterns. Guys get it worse. But then women get it worse because men hunt them. It's all very unfortunate to he alienated
First ever date with a guy: I texted him I had a good time and wanted to hang out again, he texted me back that it seemed like I didn't like him because I was monotonous and didn't talk a lot
I explained that I just get nervous/take time to open up to people, especially cute guys. That might've done the charm because we went on several more dates, and the more time I spent with him, the happier I seemed, the better I was at talking, etc. He literally told me how he kept seeing me get more and more confident. He actually ended up being pretty clingy to me, which is part of the reason I ended things. I never would've thought someone could like me that much before that though. Exposure therapy is the way
Yeah, exactly.
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It's a horrible place to be in when you have serious depression. I have bipolar II and I've lost so many friends and acquaintances because their lives go on while I'm stuck in stasis for months with depression, unable to really socialize or participate in their lives. A lot of people just move on.