Waking up? Inertia. Takes five alarms.

Getting up from bed? Inertia. Takes half an hour.

Making the bed? Inertia. 2 days out of 7.

And on and on it goes.

How do I become one of them “up and at em” types? A real go getter bucko?

  • JoeByeThen [he/him, they/them]
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    2 years ago

    Ya gotta motivate yourself. Which sounds simple, but it's not, because we're all motivated by different things. Maybe getting up in the morning requires a pep talk, or maybe it requires a well thought out fantasy in which the CIA is at your door and you've gotta literally roll out of bed onto the floor, get dressed, and sneak out the back door while humming Bella Ciao to yourself. Don't be afraid to use your senses with music, scents, colored lights, etc.

    Build habits, one a month. Figure out the sort of person you want to be, the life you want to live, and determine the habits that person would need to live that life. Then make that person real by motivating yourself one habit at a time.

    • commiewithoutorgans [he/him, comrade/them]
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      2 years ago

      Build habits, one a month. Figure out the sort of person you want to be, the life you want to live, and determine the habits that person would need to live that life. Then make that person real by motivating yourself one habit at a time.

      Really good advice. I'm someone who has gotten mostly out of my bad despression and can motivate myself to do things to a limited extent (I can clean for like2 hours before I quit and need to build up the energy), but building the good habits is exactly what helped. Making it eventually feel weird not to do something. I feel shitty if I don't workout, run or walk for a couple days because it feels abnormal. I clean my bed every saturday because I am now addicted to the clean bed feeling on saturday nights. it's har work to get there, and I still need to be better in many ways (sitting to read more instead of scrolling through news and hexbear, clean more than just the necessities before it becomes visibly bad) but it's helped me a lot

      • Grandpa_garbagio [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        I have very similar issues and the biggest motivator for me is literally just the simple concept of "I want to feel better"

        If all these things bothering you make you feel unwell then taking care of them is now taking care of yourself.

        If there's too much on your plate though, see what you can unload.

        Edit: also yeah the planner is mandatory for when things are busy or stressful for me.