It’s a good trait wrapped in a lot of bullshit about productivity. Mourning a loved one is good, it is natural, it is healthy, and we must be able to be strong enough to persevere and continue our own lives. It is a combination of sadness and stoic reality that you are deeply sad that this person is gone, and you deserve to be sad, but you have to continue living your own life because no amount of sadness will bring that person back. At the same time, this perverse system expects us to mourn for three days and then get back to work (maybe a week) when mourning for a loss can take weeks before you truly feel “normal” and even that’s a stretch depending on the loss.