the one I think of immediately is that my dad would always say “stop being such a girl” when I complained about things. I picked up the phrase when I was young without thinking about it
then I said it to someone in elementary school and they said “what’s wrong with being a girl” and I was like wait yeah wtf why am I saying this
Stoicism/"Rationalism." When I was a kid I was very energetic and expressive. But once I hit puberty I felt like I had to bottle that up and put it behind me, or no one would take me seriously. Coupled with questioning my religious upbringing, I dove hard into science, which wasn't bad except that I had this ideal of living as rationally as possible which meant pretending that I didn't have any feelings and being miserable all the time 😓