I watched the video linked above yesterday morning, and it really blew my mind. I'm still processing it and would love to discuss it with you all.
It's 08m04s, no music, sound effects, startles, or sponsor shit, just a late-diagnosed woman discussing a revelation she had about communication differences.
She explains it better than I will, but to give you the overview, she thinks that allistics prioritize the parts of the communication process this way:
- feelings
- social context
- information exchange
and autistics instead do
- information exchange
- social context
- feelings
The way she explains it (and the examples she gives) makes so much sense to me. Idk yet how to incorporate that new understanding into my attempts to communicate with allistics, but wow, yeah, this extremely simple difference blew my mind and seems obvious in retrospect.
This was pretty helpful to think on. I remember times where I felt a social disconnect when I told the truth or informed about something. I wasn't trying to one-up. I just wanted to explain I understood something someone else experienced.
Or I came off as too obsessed with minutiae when I wanted to clarify something.
Same! And I really need to understand why we do things a certain way before the how of it will make sense to me or stick very well in my head.