Sorry if this is the wrong comm, but I had to get this off my chest. I am so sick and tired of dealing with bi-erasure. I am a bisexual man who is I'd say 90% attracted to women and 10% attracted to men. Best I can explain it, I am mostly attracted to women and occasionally attracted to a man. It really is that simple, but for a lot of people I might as well be explaining calculus. I understand if most straight people can't fathom it, after all they are straight. But what really irks me is when other LGBT people erase it, telling me I am "in the closet" or whatever. It makes me so damn angry because I am not in the closet, I am open about my bisexuality, yet no one believes it. I have only dated women, but everyone in my life off and online including my gf who herself is LGBTQ+ thinks I am gay. I'm so sick of it I think I'll either just tell people I am straight or become gay.
It's when people believe that bisexuality doesn't exist and that eventually they'll just come out as straight or gay. It's almost always an offshoot of misogyny that makes people believe that someone would choose men if they could. Bisexual men are usually seen as "self hating gay" and bi women are typically seen as "promiscuous and amoral straight woman." The root cause of this is patriarchy forcing people's lives to revolve around men.
When other queer people don't believe someone is bi it's a strong sign that they need to distance themselves from patriarchy. It's why queer people must do "the work" in order to have strong community. "The work" meaning distancing your soul from white cis hetero patriarchy.