Well yeah, so do you think the tweet author talked to the victim's friends and family and they all agreed that he was the head of the family and authority figure, or do you think that the writer just assumed that he's the head of the family because he's a dude and Asian?

Like what if he was really progressive and listened to his wife on everything and only did things by consensus? What if his household was actually like many "traditional" East Asian households and his wife controlled all the finances and had final say on all family matters?

Just a weird as fuck assumption to make about a shooting victim.