I am 100% confident it's them because so many details lined up (team, size of family, compensation, role, location, job level) including them using a specific phrase of words after a few days I sent it in our work chat
Obviously, I can't prove it's them so HR would never take action. Not only that but this guy is one of those started coding when they were 10 years old so not only are they a higher level than me, they also perform way better than me so complaining to my manager or teammates would 100% also backfire as they would 100% prefer a very high performing misogynist and transphobe than a poor performing woke sjw (me)
nothing to do but live with it, and try to get a different job. FWIW you're not alone, I work in a company where everyone from low level technicians to the c-suite are all that and a bag of shit, openly. I manage by keeping everything strictly business, I try to not think about them outside work and only talk to them when I have to for work reasons.
This is the only way. Talk to them when you need to and avoid any conversations that veer into political/social issues. Use the “haha yeah, it’s crazy” line as needed.
my fav answer in the thread, ty for the wise words sage (some responses were extremely funny though)
This is the most measured and reasonable response, given the situation. I'm sure if we tapped into the private thoughts of any number of people we would be thoroughly disappointed at this time.
Do what you can do to stay safe, employed, and supportive of others as a counter to such individualistic bigotry.