I am 100% confident it's them because so many details lined up (team, size of family, compensation, role, location, job level) including them using a specific phrase of words after a few days I sent it in our work chat

Obviously, I can't prove it's them so HR would never take action. Not only that but this guy is one of those started coding when they were 10 years old so not only are they a higher level than me, they also perform way better than me so complaining to my manager or teammates would 100% also backfire as they would 100% prefer a very high performing misogynist and transphobe than a poor performing woke sjw (me)

  • chickentendrils [any, comrade/them]
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    6 months ago

    Good they're remote, for you, but also means they'll be challenged less on this stuff. You could try to make them more normal through alt replies over time or something, but otherwise there's lots of bad people who keep it hidden. At least you know and if something serious does happen you won't have any confusion about them...