In the wake of the #MeToo movement, there has been a lot of focus on consent. However, that focus takes the spotlight away from other strategies that can better inform ethical sex.
I feel like using "non-consensual" in this way muddies the waters on the meaning and opens pathways for abusers to start misusing the term for their own benefit.
It would be more clear to separate this situation out into a new category of like "un-informed" sex or something. Consent is more to do with the willingness to partake in the act, which can exist with partial information on the partner.
One glaring exception to this is continued and deep "un-informed" relationships, a specific example being that case where an under cover cop spent 4 years having sex with a woman under a false name to investigate her activist group and even got her pregnant. Something where the disinformation is direct and intentional is bad.
Yeah, I think crafted lies that exist solely to disinform your partner are the line. Finding out that someone is cheating and lying about it is different than finding out the person you are with is a complete lie.
I feel like using "non-consensual" in this way muddies the waters on the meaning and opens pathways for abusers to start misusing the term for their own benefit.
It would be more clear to separate this situation out into a new category of like "un-informed" sex or something. Consent is more to do with the willingness to partake in the act, which can exist with partial information on the partner.
One glaring exception to this is continued and deep "un-informed" relationships, a specific example being that case where an under cover cop spent 4 years having sex with a woman under a false name to investigate her activist group and even got her pregnant. Something where the disinformation is direct and intentional is bad.
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Yeah, I think crafted lies that exist solely to disinform your partner are the line. Finding out that someone is cheating and lying about it is different than finding out the person you are with is a complete lie.