I was kind of passively monogamous until hooking up with a polyamorous woman on Tinder. I started a relationship with her and even though I made some attempts at dating other people, this mostly just became her having sex with other guys and me being involved with her exclusively. But I found out that I have zero jealousy, like none at all, as long as she had the time and attention for me. I found out a lot about myself that I didn't expect.

So, anyway, I wanted to create a thread about positive experiences with polyamory, due to a thread on the test instance.

  • WalterBongjammin [they/them,comrade/them]
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    1 year ago

    I have a couple of poly friends who have been in a relationship for over a decade now. It works great for them and honestly has really changed how I understand relationships as well. They have had numerous other partners (both individual and shared) during the time I've known them and overall it seems to work really well. Most of the people who have been in their polycule remain close friends and it's been nice seeing how much emotional support they all give each other. Obviously they fight sometimes and there is still the pain that any relationship involves when people get into arguments or are inconsiderate of each other, but that's just part of relationship in general. Honestly, the fact that they have other people in the relationship to provide them support and to help mediate is actually kind of great, and I think removes a lot of the fear involved in

    I'm happy that you're doing well. Being in poly/open relationships often isn't easy, as we're all more or less socialised into monogamy. Being able to feel joy for someone you love in a non-possessive way is a radical kind of love and speaks really well of you imo