it's hard to make a best friend as an adult. i kinda think it's close to impossible. but i think you can make good friends still. maybe not some soul mate.
i have best friends but ive known them literally 20 years. Other friends ive made since then have sorta come and gone as ive filtered through different hobbies or interests. "people who do things together occasionally" is what most of your friends become when you near 40 years old. if you have people you can do stuff with occasionally, youre already ahead of the game. Many would beg for just that.
oh no it isn't. i remember being 20 and thinking "why doesnt anyone wanna date meeee" but i got through it. you can't even comprehend the changes that will come in your life.
sure, it's maybe it won't all work out like that, but your options are change or accept who you are. without change or growth in yourself theres no reason to expect change externally. based on your responses the change doesn't seem to be an option right now, but hopefully when you're 40 youll be a different person in some ways and youll look back on this and have advice for someone else like i'm trying to give you. ive been where you are but i didnt really have a place on the internet to vent then. when i was 20 i thought nobody would ever want to date me and that was incorrect. it took years to become less shy. if making connections is something you want, you'll have to make the attempt and hope it's reflected.
I'm not quite twice your age, but I've had this off and on as far as I can remember. Keep trying new things, finding new music, engaging with new ideas, and maybe try low-risk recreational drugs like weed and hallucinogens (I recommend staying away from uppers and opioids as they're very addictive).
I don't want to imply that drugs are a good solution for everyone or a silver bullet, but if the problem is in your brain it might help rewire it in a helpful way. Be aware that you need a healthy, supportive environment for that. Accidentally taking too much LSD really helped me see things differently and killed my depression for a year, although it did come back. Now, a friend of mine had a similar experience but had a negative outcome, so it doesn't work for everyone. But, I've been so much more open to new things since. Hell, I'll sing and dance in public now, something that would have terrified me at your age.
I guess this is a rambling way to say it will get better if you put in the effort.
it's hard to make a best friend as an adult. i kinda think it's close to impossible. but i think you can make good friends still. maybe not some soul mate.
i have best friends but ive known them literally 20 years. Other friends ive made since then have sorta come and gone as ive filtered through different hobbies or interests. "people who do things together occasionally" is what most of your friends become when you near 40 years old. if you have people you can do stuff with occasionally, youre already ahead of the game. Many would beg for just that.
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oh no it isn't. i remember being 20 and thinking "why doesnt anyone wanna date meeee" but i got through it. you can't even comprehend the changes that will come in your life.
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sure, it's maybe it won't all work out like that, but your options are change or accept who you are. without change or growth in yourself theres no reason to expect change externally. based on your responses the change doesn't seem to be an option right now, but hopefully when you're 40 youll be a different person in some ways and youll look back on this and have advice for someone else like i'm trying to give you. ive been where you are but i didnt really have a place on the internet to vent then. when i was 20 i thought nobody would ever want to date me and that was incorrect. it took years to become less shy. if making connections is something you want, you'll have to make the attempt and hope it's reflected.
You're gonna be okay :meow-hug:
I'm not quite twice your age, but I've had this off and on as far as I can remember. Keep trying new things, finding new music, engaging with new ideas, and maybe try low-risk recreational drugs like weed and hallucinogens (I recommend staying away from uppers and opioids as they're very addictive).
I don't want to imply that drugs are a good solution for everyone or a silver bullet, but if the problem is in your brain it might help rewire it in a helpful way. Be aware that you need a healthy, supportive environment for that. Accidentally taking too much LSD really helped me see things differently and killed my depression for a year, although it did come back. Now, a friend of mine had a similar experience but had a negative outcome, so it doesn't work for everyone. But, I've been so much more open to new things since. Hell, I'll sing and dance in public now, something that would have terrified me at your age.
I guess this is a rambling way to say it will get better if you put in the effort.