I've probably been exhibiting alcoholism for 12 years. I've been able to keep it hidden from most people I know, but since I moved in with a romantic partner, it's been more obvious to both me and them. I need to change, and I've been unsuccessful for my entire adult life. It got worse starting in 2020, for obvious reasons.

I'm hesitant to bring this up to doctors. I've heard and read stories about organ transplant recipients being actively rejected (by doctors/social workers refusing to go forward, not in the medical sense of rejection of organ donation) because of expressing tendencies toward mental health issues (suicide, drug addiction). I don't want to tell a doctor or social worker that I'm an alcoholic because there is a built-in stigma against anyone like me. So, I tell them I drink socially.

I want to go to AA, but there's some christianity built into it. It's not something I could tolerate with a straight face, which would impact my recovery. I'm open to suggestions about how I can seek help.

  • Boisterous [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    I would talk very openly with your partner. Tell them you have a problem, that you've wanted to change for a while now, and that their importance in your life is the push you need to do it. Ask them to help hold you accountable throughout, that's your first step towards getting a community.

    Depending on how much/frequently you drink I do want you to know that alcohol withdrawal can be fatal, especially if you're a daily, heavy drinker. Familiarize yourself and your partner (assuming they agree to help) with the symptoms of withdrawal and if you start seizing or hallucinating at all that they take you for medical intervention regardless of your reservations.

    Don't write off any options before you try them, but absolutely research your options ahead of time. Medical clinics should have resources, but also if you're in a large centre there's likely an agnostic alternative to AA. Your partner can pick up pamphlets for you if you're not up to it.

    Good luck, and please be safe. After 1 week you're generally in the clear. :soviet-heart: