deleted post because of personal info, but thank you to everyone who responded and gave advice, it means a lot

  • AlicePraxis [any]
    hexagon
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    21 days ago

    volunteer work could be a good start, doing something positive in the world might help with my confidence and people skills. though I'm in a suburban area so it might be hard to justify spending money on gas to work without pay

    • FungiDebord [none/use name]
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      21 days ago

      Would your parents be open to subsidizing these expenses, if you can show that it's moving you in a positive direction?

      • AlicePraxis [any]
        hexagon
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        21 days ago

        I probably wouldn't ask, I think it's enough that they let me live here and have me on their phone plan for free, so I don't ask them for cash. they aren't exactly wealthy, though they've got boomer privilege and own a home, they are retired working-class people

        • FungiDebord [none/use name]
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          21 days ago

          okay. let me just convey, i mean to come to you with compassion:

          asking your parents to borrow a car, or for gas money, so you can start taking the steps to move on with your life and out of their house, wouldn't be a imposition, it would be a gift. if you're serious about making things easier on your parents (financially, psychically), then it's time to take some responsibility and swallow your pride, and make some moves (easier said than done! surely! but it's within your control and you're stronger than you know).

          • AlicePraxis [any]
            hexagon
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            20 days ago

            I do have access to a car and still have some money of my own, so I don't need to ask for cash just yet. It's hard to justify spending it without any income, though tbh running out of funds might help light a fire under my ass lol. but yeah, I do need to start making some moves before it gets too dire