I am tired of people saying my prepubescent son is their daughter’s boyfriend.

I am tired of people thinking it’s cute to make toddlers kiss each other and invade each others’ boundaries.

I am tired of people putting kids in tshirts that objectify them by calling them “studs” or “hunks” or “eyecandy” or referencing a “future hubby” or literally just printing patriarchal beauty standards on them by depicting them as a big muscle man or a curvy woman in a bikini.

I am tired of people just defaulting to assuming that all children will end up in a cishet marriage and then will have biological children, in that order, as if any deviation from that path is an unforeseeable aberration.

I am tired of people excusing literal pedophiles for religious or political reasons and then accusing queer people of being groomers.

I am tired of people creating and maintaining entire industries and sports which systemically sexualize, abuse, and exploit children with minimal oversight.

I am tired of being painfully aware of child sex trafficking happening in my area which has gone unpunished despite involvement from CPS and local authorities. And then watching people spread stereotypes about child predators which describe literally none of the people responsible.

I am tired of being looked at like a predator for being at the playground with my child, first as a man, now as a visibly queer person.

I am tired of people romanticizing my relationship while rejecting all the queer aspects of me and my partner that make our relationship healthy.

I am tired of being reprimanded for teaching my kids age-appropriate information about sex which protects them from abuse. I am tired of the person reprimanding me raising a son who will literally never understand basic female anatomy because he’s being taught it’s icky.

0.000% of Communism has been built. Evil child-murdering billionaires still rule the world with a shit-eating grin. All he has managed to do is make himself sad. He is starting to suspect Kras Mazov fucked him over personally with his socio-economic theory. It has, however, made him into a very, very smart boy with something like a university degree in Truth. Instead of building Communism, he now builds a precise model of this grotesque, duplicitous world.

I am fucking tired.

  • Changeling [it/its]
    hexagon
    ·
    1 year ago

    I’ve always let my kids guide the conversation. They had questions early and I always prefaced my answers by saying that they could stop whenever they wanted. And of course I saw them getting uncomfortable and modeled what it would look like to say they needed to stop and had them walk through it. That’s all it took. They have a healthy, comfortable, safe, and age-appropriate relationship with sex at all times and are regularly baffled by other kids not understanding basic concepts or treating body part names like curse words.

    • Judge_Jury [comrade/them, he/him]
      ·
      1 year ago

      That's exactly how I'm planning to handle it. From everything I've heard most kids will ask questions when they want to know something, so you can answer their questions in very general (but not vague) terms and they'll either be satisfied or ask a more specific question. I don't anticipate any single "sex talk" so much as just, some questions that I answer will be related to sex