I am tired of people saying my prepubescent son is their daughter’s boyfriend.

I am tired of people thinking it’s cute to make toddlers kiss each other and invade each others’ boundaries.

I am tired of people putting kids in tshirts that objectify them by calling them “studs” or “hunks” or “eyecandy” or referencing a “future hubby” or literally just printing patriarchal beauty standards on them by depicting them as a big muscle man or a curvy woman in a bikini.

I am tired of people just defaulting to assuming that all children will end up in a cishet marriage and then will have biological children, in that order, as if any deviation from that path is an unforeseeable aberration.

I am tired of people excusing literal pedophiles for religious or political reasons and then accusing queer people of being groomers.

I am tired of people creating and maintaining entire industries and sports which systemically sexualize, abuse, and exploit children with minimal oversight.

I am tired of being painfully aware of child sex trafficking happening in my area which has gone unpunished despite involvement from CPS and local authorities. And then watching people spread stereotypes about child predators which describe literally none of the people responsible.

I am tired of being looked at like a predator for being at the playground with my child, first as a man, now as a visibly queer person.

I am tired of people romanticizing my relationship while rejecting all the queer aspects of me and my partner that make our relationship healthy.

I am tired of being reprimanded for teaching my kids age-appropriate information about sex which protects them from abuse. I am tired of the person reprimanding me raising a son who will literally never understand basic female anatomy because he’s being taught it’s icky.

0.000% of Communism has been built. Evil child-murdering billionaires still rule the world with a shit-eating grin. All he has managed to do is make himself sad. He is starting to suspect Kras Mazov fucked him over personally with his socio-economic theory. It has, however, made him into a very, very smart boy with something like a university degree in Truth. Instead of building Communism, he now builds a precise model of this grotesque, duplicitous world.

I am fucking tired.

  • American_Badass [none/use name]
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    1 year ago

    Well said, comrade. There is little to nothing that creeped me out as much as people saying one of my kids was flirting. What a bunch of fucking weirdos. It hasn't been too bad for me. My family is at least very normal in a way it sounds like you're are not, and I'm very sorry for that. There's definitely some reinforced gender roles from some cousins, but nothing sexualized by the grace of God.

    I'd say I've only ever really had one freak-out about the way someone treated one of my kids and it was some septugenarian stranger and that was one of the more satisfying moments of my life, so don't balk from it. Not that it means much from an Internet stranger, but sounds like you're doing the right thing, and that's all you can really do.