I'm no expert or anything, but I'm not sure there really is an easy/universal/tested solution to this. What I would probably do in this position is just try to spend time with women and just get a greater volume of neutral-to-positive experiences with them than I ever had negative ones to form the subconscious resentment. You know, just be exposed to women enough to drill it in that women are just people, 99% of which mean you no harm.
You know, just be exposed to women enough to drill it in that women are just people, 99% of which mean you no harm.
Pretty much this. I had a period after a break up where I started to hate women and resent them. Coincides with a time in my life where I was consuming reactionary content too and getting into mgtow/mra stuff. The most important take away I can give is that women are just humans like the rest of us, and most of them are good people.
just be exposed to women enough to drill it in that women are just people,
I credit this situation growing up as what saved me from the incel route my childhood friend took. He was one of the early "men's rights" types in the late 1990s/early 2000s that metastasized into the modern incel thing. He and I had a reasonably similar upbringing. Same age, same social circles, same nerdy hobbies, same hometown, same cultural conditioning, same church, same school classes, etc. But I had a lot of age-appropriate interaction with girls and women in my immediate and extended family, and he didn't. There were a lot of times in high school when I had to quietly tell him to knock it off with some new creepy behaviour he was showing towards girls.
I'm no expert or anything, but I'm not sure there really is an easy/universal/tested solution to this. What I would probably do in this position is just try to spend time with women and just get a greater volume of neutral-to-positive experiences with them than I ever had negative ones to form the subconscious resentment. You know, just be exposed to women enough to drill it in that women are just people, 99% of which mean you no harm.
Pretty much this. I had a period after a break up where I started to hate women and resent them. Coincides with a time in my life where I was consuming reactionary content too and getting into mgtow/mra stuff. The most important take away I can give is that women are just humans like the rest of us, and most of them are good people.
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That sounds like a nice step forward.
I credit this situation growing up as what saved me from the incel route my childhood friend took. He was one of the early "men's rights" types in the late 1990s/early 2000s that metastasized into the modern incel thing. He and I had a reasonably similar upbringing. Same age, same social circles, same nerdy hobbies, same hometown, same cultural conditioning, same church, same school classes, etc. But I had a lot of age-appropriate interaction with girls and women in my immediate and extended family, and he didn't. There were a lot of times in high school when I had to quietly tell him to knock it off with some new creepy behaviour he was showing towards girls.