I guess I see where you're coming from but I still think there are nuances that are being missed. I definitly dont think that people saying what I said about 15-17 year olds are right in the slightest and I do agree that maturity isn't a switch that flips overnight. But my response to that has always been "the line needs to be drawn somewhere", and with my experience talking with younger people 18, or maybe 19, seems like a reasonable place to draw it". At some point we have to consider people adults who can make their own decisions, even if those decisions might be mistakes. (A friend of mine was recently telling me that "brain development finishes at 25" study isnt as good as people treat it as as well but idk enough about that to comment). Idk. I just consider the age gap debate to be "once you're an adult, its not my business who you love" and leave it there and dont understand why others get so into it. But I think part of that is that my autism brain cant relate to the way other people see age. Like I see people on reddit say all the time "I couldnt date someone x years younger than me, they're a kid to me" and I cant relate to it because my brain just doesnt envision it that way. I talk to younger people (18-24) all the time and they dont seem like kids to me. I just, idk, something doesnt click for me on this discussion.
the line needs to be drawn somewhere, and with my experience talking with younger people 18, or maybe 19, seems like a reasonable place to draw it ... At some point we have to consider people adults who can make their own decisions
I mean I have conflicting opinions on this. For one I think laws are different than morals, and things I find creepy I think still should still be legal. The line has to be drawn somewhere but I also think some adult rights and responsibilities should maybe be a gradual thing, although 18 is a good general number. I just find it very weird how, in most states, 16 is the age of consent, so a 16 y/o can sleep with a 40 y/o in my state, but a 20 y/o can't legally drink alcohol
Ideally under communism, I think age of consent should be more nuanced. I think maybe it could be ruled in case by case bases in relationships of 18-24 y/o's with older people. Like if a 20 y/o dates a 30 y/o and shows proof of an exploitive and manipulative dynamic to a court, that should be punishable to a certain extent, although obviously not in the same way as between adults and minors. And yeah I agree purely sex isn't the same as dating
A friend of mine was recently telling me that "brain development finishes at 25" study isnt as good as people treat it as as well but idk enough about that to comment
Well nothing's a perfect number and there's no objective hard-line for maturity, but it's a good median and probably the most common number in a bell curve afaik. It's flawed because your brain continues developing into your 30's, but the vast majority of people finish critical developments around mid 20's (and I've talked to a few people over that age that all told me that's when they started feeling like a grown-up, like some things just clicked emotionally)
I guess I see where you're coming from but I still think there are nuances that are being missed. I definitly dont think that people saying what I said about 15-17 year olds are right in the slightest and I do agree that maturity isn't a switch that flips overnight. But my response to that has always been "the line needs to be drawn somewhere", and with my experience talking with younger people 18, or maybe 19, seems like a reasonable place to draw it". At some point we have to consider people adults who can make their own decisions, even if those decisions might be mistakes. (A friend of mine was recently telling me that "brain development finishes at 25" study isnt as good as people treat it as as well but idk enough about that to comment). Idk. I just consider the age gap debate to be "once you're an adult, its not my business who you love" and leave it there and dont understand why others get so into it. But I think part of that is that my autism brain cant relate to the way other people see age. Like I see people on reddit say all the time "I couldnt date someone x years younger than me, they're a kid to me" and I cant relate to it because my brain just doesnt envision it that way. I talk to younger people (18-24) all the time and they dont seem like kids to me. I just, idk, something doesnt click for me on this discussion.
I mean I have conflicting opinions on this. For one I think laws are different than morals, and things I find creepy I think still should still be legal. The line has to be drawn somewhere but I also think some adult rights and responsibilities should maybe be a gradual thing, although 18 is a good general number. I just find it very weird how, in most states, 16 is the age of consent, so a 16 y/o can sleep with a 40 y/o in my state, but a 20 y/o can't legally drink alcohol
Ideally under communism, I think age of consent should be more nuanced. I think maybe it could be ruled in case by case bases in relationships of 18-24 y/o's with older people. Like if a 20 y/o dates a 30 y/o and shows proof of an exploitive and manipulative dynamic to a court, that should be punishable to a certain extent, although obviously not in the same way as between adults and minors. And yeah I agree purely sex isn't the same as dating
Well nothing's a perfect number and there's no objective hard-line for maturity, but it's a good median and probably the most common number in a bell curve afaik. It's flawed because your brain continues developing into your 30's, but the vast majority of people finish critical developments around mid 20's (and I've talked to a few people over that age that all told me that's when they started feeling like a grown-up, like some things just clicked emotionally)