Liberals are authoritarians, we all pretty much agree on that here but what's the best way to communicate this to a well meaning baby leftist?
Anything worth linking to or specific phrasings you like using? How do you go about justifying that liberals are the "real" authoritarians and not the communists?
Before I answer your question about liberals, let's start by deconstructing the term "authoritarian."
In "On Authority", Engels says the following:
while Bakunin and other anarchists in the 1st international, on occasion, did argue that anarchists reject "all authority" they, as Carole Pateman correctly notes, "tended to treat 'authority' as a synonym for 'authoritarian,' and so have identified 'authority' with hierarchical power structures, especially those of the state. Nevertheless, their practical proposals and some of their theoretical discussions present a different picture. Bakunin, clearly, did not oppose all authority but rather a specific kind of authority, namely hierarchical authority. This kind of authority placed power into the hands of a few. For example, wage labour produced this kind of authority, with a, quote,
Lenin said that the state is merely an instrument for the suppression of one class by another, which is why he believed in seizing the state rather than destroying it. That is, replacing a Class Dictatorship of the Bourgeoisie (Capitalism) with a Class Dictatorship of the Proletariat (Socialism), which would eventually become Communism.
So, all that being said, my issue with liberals, is less that they are "authoritarian" and more that they are reactionary. The class dictatorship of the proletariat may be called "authoritarian" just like the class dictatorship of the bourgeoisie (Capitalism), or the class dictatorship of the landed aristocracy (feudalism). So the real question is, whether the authority is reactionary or revolutionary. The authority of liberals was at one point in time revolutionary, specifically in the context of the end of feudalism. The replacement of the feudal aristocracy by the bourgeoisie was, if nothing else, historically progressive. However, the liberals and conservative bourgeoisie are both reactionary, and the socialists are progressive.
The bourgeois revolutions, such as the French revolution, were looked upon by Marxists as historically necessary but ultimately outliving their purpose. Marx, Engels, Lenin, Stalin, Trotsky, all agreed on this:
Marx:
https://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1871/civil-war-france/ch05.htm
Engels:
https://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1889/letters/89_12_04.htm
Marx, Engels both thought the French revolution was of a progressive character when it took place, destroying the semi-feudal Europe and giving birth to bourgeois Europe. A necessary historical development to make socialism possible in the future.
Stalin:
https://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/stalin/works/1934/08/09.htm
Trotsky:
https://www.marxists.org/archive/trotsky/1931/tpr/rp03.htm
Lenin, furthermore, viewed Socialism as, among other things, the proletariat seizing upon the state capitalist monopolies and the state machinery.
https://www.marxists.org/archive/lenin/works/1917/ichtci/11.htm#v25zz99h-360
https://www.marxists.org/archive/lenin/works/1918/may/09.htm