When they say it they’re always seem to mean it as a compliment but I kind of get offended because of the connotation behind the term ‘nice guy’. And in the back of my head there’s that suspicion that they could possibly be making a dig at me.
I dunno, I feel like in the West being called a nice XX denotes that you’re weak, or insecure, or unattractive.
I think it's moreso that incels have painted a gross tone on it with their
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"she called me a nice guy, so that means she has to have sex with me" shit.
I think it's cool to be genuinely recognized as a nice person by someone, though.
If someone uses the word 'kind', I still feel weird about it but less so than 'nice'. I wonder if my experience with 'nice' in internet discourse is the reason.
Some people use the word interchangeably, or when they say 'nice' they mean 'pleasant to be around'