The book suggests that the defining problem driving out most people who leave is … just how American life works in the 21st century. Contemporary America simply isn’t set up to promote mutuality, care, or common life. Rather, it is designed to maximize individual accomplishment as defined by professional and financial success. Such a system leaves precious little time or energy for forms of community that don’t contribute to one’s own professional life or, as one ages, the professional prospects of one’s children. Workism reigns in America, and because of it, community in America, religious community included, is a math problem that doesn’t add up.

  • axont [she/her, comrade/them]
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    11 months ago

    Yeah there's currently a huge split among American Methodists right now, which was a church founded to basically be "normal default Christians" and not embroiled within deeper theological or political questions.

    They're tearing themselves apart over gay and trans issues. Half of the Methodists want to just stop hearing/talking about it, the other half want to start their own explicitly conservative version of Methodism. It's making a lot of people simply disinterested in going to church, going from what I'm hearing from Methodists.

    • TheLepidopterists [he/him]
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      11 months ago

      My in-laws are Methodists and I got in a little trouble with my wife a while back for inquiring with my MIL about whether their family's church was staying with the "progressives who aren't bigots are a minority that is tolerated" branch of the church or schisming with the "if you allow a minority of non-homophobic/transphobic Methodists to remain in the church, eventually they'll overthrow the conservatives" branch.

      I did phrase it a little more diplomatically of course.

      I actually still don't know which they are.

      • axont [she/her, comrade/them]
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        11 months ago

        I actually still don't know which they are.

        I think a lot of church members are confused too, since the whole reason they became Methodists instead of explicitly bigoted Baptists or Pentecostals was to avoid this kind of church politics in the first place.

        I doubt it'll get handled democratically either. Methodists are just gonna show up to church one day to see a sign saying "no wokeness allowed" because their preacher joined the openly bigoted side

        • TheLepidopterists [he/him]
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          11 months ago

          If they can afford to. My understanding is that joining the openly bigoted side means that they have to pay a bunch of fees to the national branch, which most of them probably can't afford to due to declining membership.

          Local bigoted institution goes bankrupt is also an acceptable outcome though

          • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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            11 months ago

            ok my bet is the side that costs more money will loose that's normally how religious schisms settle

          • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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            11 months ago

            It seems like breaking right would really make them vulnerable to vandalism if they already need to pay a fee that they can't afford just to try it.

    • bigmonkey [they/them]
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      11 months ago

      My grandma is a Methodist and has been going to church every Sunday for the past 80 years. This year she stopped going because according to her it's constantly brought up and argued about. She's the old fashioned "I don't care and I don't want to hear about it" type when it comes to LGBT which is about as good as you can expect from her age group. I guess there's some pot stirrers in her congregation that keep trying to push everyone rightward and it's tiring her poor old heart out. I am very anti Christianity but I can't help but feel bad for her since she's losing one of the only consistent things she's had her whole life.

      • axont [she/her, comrade/them]
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        11 months ago

        I feel really sorry for your grandma. I hope she has some other kind of social circle, or that she's still close with family