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    • nat_turner_overdrive [he/him]
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      5 months ago

      It really seems like you have entirely missed their point, to be honest. All they're advocating for is a rule change to facilitate discussion, not in any way trying to identify liars.

    • Procapra
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      • Dickey_Butts [none/use name]
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        5 months ago

        So you need to either tell me how you are going to verify people's claims or how you are going to protect against social engineering that reddit-like sites are famous for. It literally isn't possible. All the claims are true or they aren't. This isn't complicated.

                    • Moonworm [any]
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                      5 months ago

                      A user of this comm got a substantial amount of money from donations here and it didn't work out; they basically ended up in the same place as they were within a month without durably improving their situation. There were some people who thought this person might have squandered the money in various ways, potentially in ways that were not healthy.

                      It's difficult to separate those concerns from putting conditions on the aid, but I personally think some of those concerns were out of genuine desire to see the person not fall into self-destructive patterns. I don't know if it's appropriate or not to have those concerns, but this rule change prevents any discussion or suggestions that might be more constructive.

                      I hope this is helpful framing of the conversation without denigrating anyone.

                      • Dickey_Butts [none/use name]
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                        5 months ago

                        Certainly better than grandstanding. Thank you. My points stand. There is no way to vet any of this. It is either caveat emptor or full ban. I am fine with either.

        • Procapra
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        • eight [it/its]
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          5 months ago

          Where in any post are they advocating for vetting? You have a really strong opinion about something everyone already agrees with but somehow that means you disagree with their point of offering advice instead of just money?

        • D61 [any]
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          5 months ago
          • Somebody asks for a few bucks for some ramen.

          • The same somebody is pretty open about their use and/or addiction to things on the same forums that they've asked for a few bucks

          • Commenters chirp about "not being an addict" and "don't give money to this person because they are probably going to use it for drugs"

          I'm hoping this is what the rule is in reference to. Could also be comfortable with it being in reference to comments telling them to go find a food pantry or shelter etc.etc. when they weren't asking for helping finding or navigating those services.

          I am 99% positive, nobody is asking to vet the user who's asking for ramen money if, in fact, they are going to be using it for ramen instead of drugs or booze or socks or something.