I'm not sure why I feel this way. I don't want to get too much into anything, but when people say they create their own echo chambers Yada Yada thing, even though I would agree with that, it's interesting to see how people who believe different things, are just amongst eachother.
I wish there was a way to get all defederated or isolated instances to not necessarily federated but connect in a way where a user can see their feeds but you still can't reply if that instance has you on their blocked list idk
This is true in a lot of places online and offline. Most of the communities I belong to are under 50 users of like minded or not so like minded people. Once you start going into massive userbase comms things get muddled and youll eventually not know very many of the people as well as you would if the community was smaller and you can actually engage with people at a personal level. Thats been my goal of using the internet since the beginning of my time on it. Meet people I like and would want to spend time with IRL.
The fediverse is a bit of a different beast as a lot of the software is a clone of other services. Those servuces have enclaves of different users that have different interests and interact with each other differently (based on hashtags, subreddits, etc) but were all technically on the same platform interacting with the entire userbase.
That brings a lot of baggage when those users have an exodus to one of the federated platforms. They bring their platform spexific sectarian mindsets in the form of brain worms or whatever other mind diseases that haven't been discovered quite yet. Hexbear is relatively unique as its one of those enclaves of users that has successfully broken away and resembles more of the old web than something like reddit or twitter, even with the added twist of federation.
Thats why I like federation. It pushes people to host their own and do their own thing without having to answer to the site admins. Sure instances can defederate from you but that just means they probably suck or you're just a Nazi. There are quite a few chud instances on various fedis that are straight up fash and have been wholly defederated for good reason. though I imagine most of them have eaten themselves without outside interaction.